I'm single (26), and promised myself that I wouldn't committ to a girl until I was ready to get engaged.
I go on dates often with different girls, but not steady dating. If I really like a girl and feel like it could lead somewhere, I'll go out with her again, but make no promises to date her exclusively.
Some have found out by asking me or through friends that I'm not dating them exclusively and get all frazzled, and stop dating me entirely, but I didn't know they had thought that I was their one and only.
Anyway, I don't see the big deal. If you aren't engaged, what's the point of dating exclusively?
2007-01-09 02:58:38 · 9 answers · asked by Cameron L 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why should I have to tell anyone that they are not the only one I'm dating?
If it's their business to be disillusioned, let them.
2007-01-09 03:44:21 · update #1
Yes it is, If you are unwilling or can't commit to her, how can you marry her?
2007-01-09 03:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A woman wants to know that you can be faithful with just her because then in return it is a sign of someone that could possibly stick around and not cheat. They way you are doing it now is the typical signs of what us women call "players" Although you may not be intentionally doing this, that's the action you are perceiving in these women's eyes. But I have not heard you say either that you were totally upfront with them about this. Women love honesty and as long as you are straight forward about you not wanting to committ until you are engaged they won't get all frazzled. But I dont see how you are going to get engaged without committing to one woman long enough to get to know them.
2007-01-09 11:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by perkadittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER date someone for any length of time without being exclusive... with YOUR thinking... You will never get engaged. You have to date someone to get to know them... NO GIRL is going to want to date you and at the same time KNOW that she isnt your only girlfriend. Thats cheating. Good luck
2007-01-09 11:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in dating exclusively if you have no intentions of deepening the relationship. To clear this issue be straight with the girls you date from day one. That way when they get mad they have no one to blame but themselves.
2007-01-09 11:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girls get frazzled b/c they had to "find out". Like it was siad, tell them from the get go that are dating around until you find someone you want to be exculsive with. The problem is, girls dont like to share. Especially if things are getting sexual.
2007-01-09 11:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by kt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought that dating was like shopping for a partner. You meet, test the product and decide. But there are areas of difficulty. Until you decide on the product you want ...DATE
2007-01-09 11:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just right okay there is nothing wrong with that but i would go on 2 dates w each and tell them upfront that your in the process of narrowing down to one girl u fall in love with
2007-01-09 11:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Word will get around and eventually you will find it difficult to get someone who is serious about getting married to date you.
2007-01-09 11:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-09 11:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋