if you both agree that you dont want a relationship?
We both still love eachother but realise that we cannot be together.
we were together for 6 years, he was controlling and possessive of me. i had to end it. we grew to hate eachother in the end.
we have only just started speaking to eachother after spliting 6 months ago.
2007-01-09 02:57:38 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you read your post?!? You want to see your ex for sex, which is a normal carnal thing. But the fact is, is that you just said that he is controlling and possessive of you and YOU had to end it. It doesn't look like you're done with him if you're still thinking about having sex with this man. He controls you more than you think it seems.
--wrap it up!
2007-01-09 03:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its not wrong if that's what you want however i know as a women you tend to get emotionally attached to someone after giving it up and at the same time you don't want to be with him but the sex is making you think twice about breaking up and in reality you may just be giving him what he wished for because of course he is not going to tell you but he just might have another girl that he may be getting serious with but at the the same time he can f*ck you when he wants to and still have his girl on the side so basically you can be his side line hoe and he can have his cake and eat it to now if the d*ck is that good than maybe he is worth keeping around but isn't your pride way more important? I suggest you find someone better so you wont need him around any longer after six months you don't think he has found someone else besides there has to be some good reason why he is your ex not your present but you are just letting him back into the same world he got kicked out of 6 months ago wake up face reality and move on to something bigger and better it may be hard to find but eventually it will come to you good luck
2007-01-09 03:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by ohsosexy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with all this. On the surface, I would say no, it's not wrong, but I would also STRONGLY caution that sooner or later someone's almost certainly going to develop feelings and this is only going to get worse between the two of you. Sex can only complicate a situation when authentic feelings are ignored or repressed for too long. And after six years together, I'd suggest that one or both of you might have some real feelings for the other, even if they are way deep down.
2007-01-09 03:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay away from him. In the long run it will you who will get hurt the most. You left him because he was controlling, he will try too control you again.
I am not saying it is wrong it is just in your best interest to move on. Dont live in the past. The hurt will never heal as long as you are seeing him and you wont be able to have a decent relationship someone you meet. You ex will interfer for sure.
2007-01-09 03:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that its more a physical need than an emotional one for you, however he is continuing to control you in that by you still having sex with him he is stopping you from moving on to someone else - do you think that any new man would want to approach you knowing that you were still sleeping with your ex - NO - You need to stop - even though you may miss the sex especially if it is good - you will find someone else soon enough Im sure.
Good Luck
2007-01-09 06:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by sarahlou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, been in that situation and you are only doing it for comfort reasons. But in the long run it will cause more problems with one if you wants to move on and start a relationship with another person. Just end it before someone get hurt.
2007-01-09 08:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jules Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...I think your relationship (as a lover) does no good to you.
You won't earge yourself to go out and find a new guy, if you're still with this guy having sex.
You need that feeling of sadness, lonelyness, to finally get up and hunt for a new one, or you'll just be in the same circle of desperation.
Move on! Don't see him any more!!
2007-01-09 03:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may think its ok ...we all need sex at some point but you said he was controlling...that could be a problem
if you decide you want more than just sex your going to get hurt
if you met someone else i can see him making it hard for you
sex it not the be all and end all in a realationship you need someone to share your thoughts with and you will just end up very lonely
you might think its ok to use him for sex but he could end up throwing it back in your face at some point
you deserve more than just a sex buddy
the right man is out there somewhere for us both ...lol
trust me ive been waiting long enough but i aint giving up ...lol
good luck
2007-01-09 03:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its better to put a stop to things as they are!
ON THE DOWN SIDE == in my opinion i think you should be scared of falling for him again and land in the same situation you were in six months ago. be realistic about things and ask yourself would you be willing to take that risk. i know i wouldnt!
ON THE UP SIDE == its good you's are talking again and yea meeting up once in a while is good for you (releases indophens,the hormone that makes you feel good) but please remember to watch out for those tell tail signs sayin its a bad idea.
Good luck with everything!
2007-01-09 03:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Female Raging Huggalot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; I am sure that you can find plenty of other guys that would enjoy being a friend with benefits if you are just looking for sex though. Why would you want to deal with the same controlling sh*t?
2007-01-09 03:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by hottimesforallwomen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋