My 4 yr old has been chewing up the bus seat chewing books and licking his shoes? He has bad tantrums in school and can sometimes be mean to others. Why would he be chewing all of this items and licking his shoe? Is he to young for the school? I am really concerned with him he cries and will not listen to the teacher, can't sit still in his chair and just refuses to listen. My older son is adhd but he never went thru this chewing thing and i don't remember him being as bull headed. i keep hoping its a stage he will out grow but i dont know. Please can someone give me some answers or some advice. I have used the telling him about the germs that come along with him chewing on everything.
2007-01-09 02:54:15 · 10 answers · asked by malibu2769 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He's not to young for school. They guy giving advice against school is wrong. There is NOTHING wrong with being away from mommy for a few hours a few times a week. I'd assume he's in preschool? It's tailored for 3-4 year olds so of course he belongs there!
But as for his behavior, you need to speak to his pediatrician about the chewing and acting out.
2007-01-09 03:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by diaryofadonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son went through a stage last year where he kept chewing the front of his shirts. He was 4 also, and it drove me nuts. He would not stop no matter what, but he has out grown it most of the time now. He started chewing when he decided he was to old to carry his doggie(comfort object) out in public with him anymore. Which was shortly after he started preshool. He would chew his shirt when we were out and he didn't have his doggie. When we were at home and he had doggie he didn't do it. He has mostly outgrown the chewing he will only do it now if he gets really upset and doggie is not there. So I think your son will outgrow this phase as well. Good Luck until then.
2007-01-09 06:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behaviour aside, it would be worth while testing your son for ADHD since your older son already has it and this information will prove useful for his on-going education.
Chewing things, tantrums, lashing out all sound like he's struggling with the transition to school, but that doesn't mean he's too young. If he's leaving you for the first time (having no previous daycare) may make him anxious and cause him to act out. To help the transition, bringing something friendly and familiar from home might help - an inexpensive toy perhaps (don't forget to label). My son has a stuffed spiderman doll that he sometimes brings to daycare as sort of an icebreaker upon his arrival.
Redirect his behaviour as opposed to try and repremend him each time he does it. "Shoes belong on your..." (feet). "Food goes in your..." (mouth). "Books are for..." (reading). Praise him when he make the correct association. Kids don't know or care about germs since they can't see them. I save the time outs for issues like any violence or refusing instruction, (1 min. per year of age)
Talk to him regularly about school: validate his feelings (both good & bad), what he did that was fun and sound excited for him.
Make his teacher your new "friend". She may have her own insight to help the problem AND if your son sees how relaxed and friendly you are with her, he may be more receptive to his new environment.
2007-01-09 04:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Shorty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm i would say he most likley has Add or Adhd. He might need to be on some sort or ridilan based medication . I would take him to a proper doctor that deals with stuff like the add and adhd and see what he thinks . I have a little brother that can't sit still to save his life and has add and they put him on some kinda patch and it has made a big differance .
2007-01-09 03:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to supply your little one regulations. If he breaks the principles have certainly outlined punishment and persist with it. Do now not supply units that you've got eliminated again after sooner or later. My little one spoke back good whilst he needed to earn the units again with small jobs and well behaviour for a collection period of time. Your little one has a few despite the fact that your little one sounds brilliant, permit him to be a little one. He is simply too younger for units like an xbox. At this age he demands to be studying approximately matters that contain right social responses equivalent to sharing, utilising manners equivalent to please and thanks, and speakme with each youngsters and adults to carry a message. All of the matters that you just mentioned he's well at are man or woman pursuits, motorbike driving, xbox and so forth. Perhaps your little one might advantage from a few organised and based organization pursuits however be certain they're in a small organization. Another perspective is to additionally assess his nutrition for meals intolerances equivalent to synthetic colors and flavours. My pal had a son who used to be informed he had ADHD however with the support of a few trying out they discovered he wasn't tolerating a few meals components. He now could be appearing like some other little boy. There is not more violent outbursts and his tolerance of others is far bigger. It appeared rough to start with to be checking all of the meals labels for components nevertheless it has now grow to be moment nature and it used to be undoubtedly valued at the trouble. Hope this is helping.
2016-09-03 18:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by erlene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-09 03:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by malc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is far too young for school. Most boys don't belong in school until they are around 6 or 7. It's just not desgined for them.
Also, kids from 0 - 5 are harmed by separation from their mothers. They learn best in the context of a one on one relationship with mom. So, school for kids under 5 is really a silly idea.
Get him home and give him the loving he still needs.
2007-01-09 03:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You might want to take him to a doctor or a child psychologist they could probably help you and tell you what his problem is. It could be a phase but if he's been acting this way for a while then you might want to go see a doctor.
2007-01-09 03:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by valerie_lynn82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend taking him to a child psychologist.
2007-01-09 02:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by SLASH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will probably grow out of it, but talk to his doctor and ask him for idseas
2007-01-09 02:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋