he dumped me on msn, he said he didn't feel the same about me anymore after telling me how stupid he was for not talking to me for a week and i forgive him then 2 days later he dumps me.even his friends were saying i was too good for him( he's not that great looking but was so kind) we go to the same college yet we have no contact he just walks passed me like nothing happened it still hurts everytime i see him and sometimes i vist his myspace and that hurts me more so. i just can't help it. he sent me an email the other day saying he wanted to talk but i know deep down he only wants to say sorry nothing else( i'm not ready to talk to him yet) he seems to have moved on why can't i? i also sometimes dream of him is this wrong we broke up a month ago? PLEASE HELP
2007-01-09 02:40:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you had your heart broke it's a stage your going through, but moving on and being more happy is best for you. if it was meant to be in time youd be together but if you dont let love in from someone else you can keep being miserable.
2007-01-09 02:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
First of all, I'm sry that your going through this whole ordeal. I've been through a break up recently my self. And I can tell you, letting go is always very difficult. You may think about him all the time and feel depressed. But time trully does heal all wounds. It took me 2months to get over my ex completly. And I did this by getting rid anything and everything that reminded me of him and our relationship. That included all the pictures of us together or just of him as well as all other things ( such as presents, e-mails, no on the contact list on phone etc). Make sure your friends, especially mutual friends don't talk to you about him. Stop visiting his myspace. Basically, the only way to move on (which you should do), is to sever all connections to him. If he wants to talk, let him know through a friend that you are not interested. I KNOW that this is going to be very difficult for you. But it is the only way. And dont worry. Things will work out fine
2007-01-09 03:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You are emotionally committed to him... You must close the door on that relationship, and get your emotions back under control.
2) This just takes time and you can't be together with him while you are healing... It's a step by step process that gets better with time.. However, each time you hold hope of getting back together and/or have contact with him will cause you to start the healing process all the way back at the beginning... Don't know why this is true but it is..
- Sorry you have to experience this but it is a valuable life lesson.
2007-01-09 02:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. The best thing you can do, is talk to him, like adults. Find out why he wants to talk to you. And after, just talk like civilized people and explain how it made you feel. As far as I'm concerned, breaking up with someone over MSN is the lowest of the low. Then it's by text, then by phone. ask him why he didn't talk to you face to face and what it was that made him change his mind about you. He probably did it in your best intrest. How would you feel if he stayed with you and you found out from someone else how he really felt? I know what it's like i've been there. Talk to him. Space is probably what he needed. He's had that. Find out the truth. =]
2007-01-09 02:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fellow sister
It seems to me that you did not get closure when it comes to this fool so let him say he is sorry and then you need to continue to go on with your life in time your wounds will heal and then one day he will be a faded memory to you for that is the time your heart has moved on to a better someone
2007-01-09 02:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dream about him that means inside somewhere there is love hidden for him so speak to him and see what he has got to tell you .Might be he is really sorry and regrets for what he has done.Might be he wants to tell you more than a "sorry".there is no harm in meeting him at least for the one last time.
2007-01-09 02:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Penchu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ego and self-esteem are bruised, more than you really want him back. Just because you two were not compatible does not mean that you are not a great person...it just means at face value what it is...not a match.
It sounds like part of you is thinking logically and knowing you could to better.
2007-01-09 02:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and get it over with. Then get into other activities, other people, and other guys. Dating others will help somewhat.
Sorry you're going through this. We have all been there and it's horrible!
2007-01-09 02:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how it feels just it was the opposite as far as the brake up i was tired of it we didnt even call each other for three weeks and thats a relationship i dont think so !
2007-01-09 02:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him f and sees what he says first before you make your move.
2007-01-09 02:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋