I'm almost 26 yrs. old, and I have people who try to dictate what I do and say. Do you ever just hate your family?
2007-01-09 02:24:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they do it because they THINK they know us better than we know ourselves - they call it love. but, there comes a point in life, when you know that you are in control of your mind and life - and no one has the right to dictate their decisions of what your future should be like. i don't hate my family, they will always be my family, but, i've told them and they realize that they can advise me if they choose to - but it is I who makes the final decision and once i make up my mind of what I am going to do - advice time is over. whether i've made right or wrong choices, they are MY choices and it's ME who has to live with them - not THEM. WE are adults, just like they are and we deserve the same respect when we make our own decisions as they want respect when they make their decisions whether they are right or wrong in their own life.
2007-01-09 03:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Entitlement? Perhaps during your life time as you were growing up and becoming a young adult they had an appropriate degree of rightful parental entitlement and control in guiding you in what was considered by them at the time as being good and safe for you. As you get older parents need to ease up on control and allow children to make mistakes when they are young and when the risks are lower and less expensive. Assuming you and your family still love each other please feel free to tell them you will consider their position when you can and tell them "no" when you can't. Your position can be one of both love and firmness. Its always the first few times that are the hardest but they will get it after just a few times with your new attitude and position. You can do this, each time and every time where in you will still be accepting and successful with them. Good parents will still be there for you. If not, it is a control issue of theirs, not yours, and they will have to deal with it as you assert your new self into your new world. Bless you in all that you do.
Ed
2007-01-09 11:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do I "hate" my family. Hatred is a strong term there, darling.
Sometimes they DO get on my nerves.
Families do not try to control you. They just want what is best for you and so they give you advice that may sound 'controlling.'
2007-01-09 10:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, a non healthy one or even a healthy one family will always tell you what to do or say. but the thing is you're your own entity and are independent. they can say whatever and expect whatever from you, but you don't have to follow them. just communicate with them and turn them down politely and nicely. this way, it won't cause too much trouble and they'll learn to to respect you eventually. learn to say no is really an act of art!
2007-01-09 10:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two reasons
one some people are generally control freak.... all that is in their envrionment in ur case its YOU should do what they want..... coz they think they know whats best for u
second is that they are over protective.... they dont want u to do same mistakes that they themselves did...... we on other hand want to fall down and learn from our own mistakes......
well thats when the clash happens
hope later is case with u
as control freaks there is no scope
best of luck
2007-01-09 10:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by rocks_life 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They care about you and are worried that you are making wrong choices in your life. Appreciate them for what they are, not what you think they should be.
2007-01-09 10:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you listening to them???
2007-01-09 10:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋