My dad always came back late at night drunk and my dad's family is always on his side and no matter he is right or wrong, they will push all the blame to my mom, can anyone give advice on making peace so that I will not have to suffer anymore of this arguments???
2007-01-09 02:19:35 · 7 answers · asked by Jake 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand--my father was/is the same way. His family still protects him.
Go to al-anon.
talk to counselors-I don't know if you are in school or not, but they can recommend people for you to talk to as well.
get your mom to talk to counselors.
You cannot be the peacemaker--it is not your job. Please talk to a counselor. I waited until I was almost 40 before I did and I wish I had done it sooner. Also, a book called ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS helped me as well.
2007-01-09 02:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by fab 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are the child it isn't your fault. Promise
Dad has issues and he needs to step up to the plate and take the heat for what the heck he is doing. Family will love each other always. But he has his own family and He should try to make them comfortable too. If you think your dad has a problem tell him. Ask your mom about what she thinks. and see what your next move is. If you think your dad should join aa.
2007-01-09 10:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by LESLIE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is phucked up to place the burden of making peace on the kids. You are going to need some adult help. Go to a trusted relative and tell them how it is affecting you. Or go to any trusted adult. You can't do this on your own when adults choose to act like a-ssholes, believe me I've tried.
2007-01-09 10:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to finde out witch day your dad is gonne come home sober and reinact together with your mom and pretend you both drunk ,your mom sould dish the food up in a drunk way , it worked for my dad,b -coz he sees what its like 2 have drunken family that he comes home 2 maby then he wil realise what you and mom are feeling.
try it hope it helps good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 10:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by poesycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something your mom needs to handle,you should never be left to feel as though you need to take care of it,your mom needs to stand up to them and let them know 1.that it doesnt concern them 2.that your father is causing the chaos3.have an indifference attitude towards them/ your mom is very capable of handling the situation she has taken care of things before you were born you need to let her know how you feel,she probably doesnt know it bothers you so much we have fights and arguements and dont take them as seriously sometimes as you may think talk to her let her know
2007-01-09 10:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell everybody to stop fighting and go into family counseling. tell the dad to stop drinking, he is destroying the famiy. support your mom. get some professional help. now.
2007-01-09 10:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
You're kinda stuck with this.
You might want ot check out al-anon.
Your mom could benefit too.
2007-01-09 10:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by mmd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋