My boyfriend is 30 an I'm 20, he has showed he loves me, but he insists making love with me, and the worst, making oral sex!!!!!!...I'm not apt to take that step, it's too soon (only 3 months), and I'm virgin............HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 02:08:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex is natural, its a natural urge for both of us, you may be feeling nervous due to never doing it, go with how comfortable you feel, let him know how you feel, he may not understand but at the end of the day your feelings are important.
Also dont buy into the whole its too soon phase, even if its 3 months, 2 days , it doesnt make you a slut, sex is natural and a natural enjoyment of life, its time to expierence the natural labors of life/
2007-01-09 02:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by wannabeomg 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This coming from a guy. If he is really pushing that topic, than you need to step back and think what he really wants in the relationship. Make sure you look at the big picture, if he isn't willing to wait, for what you want, because that would make you happy... than is he really worth your time? And trust me I am young also, but I know that discomfort is not something that should be in a relationship... w/out being talked about. TALK TO HIM. He may not even realize he's doing anything wrong, you need to let him know.
2007-01-09 10:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by donnie_rowley42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm...if he loves u truly he never have to force you for all this stuff... because true love dont need sex to explain the feelings, but the people on this planet dont want to understand this simple relation.. on the other hand he insist you for oral sex,, hmm from my point of view oral sex is not respectfull :( i dont know why but its my personal thoughts, I never forced my GF for oral sex, but on the other hand beside the likes ans dislikes, If you try to do the oral sex then by doing so u eject his sperm in few minutes, and by the help this your virginity is safe... because if he is horny and you wont gave him oral then it might be that he attacked on your virginity because sex made a aman beast's .. so be carefull and i suggest gave him oral sex not regularly just ocassionaly .. okk
2007-01-09 10:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mr XXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be with a man that age. If he is pressuring you for sex and you are not ready, say no and walk away. Get out of the relationship and find someone closer to your age.
2007-01-09 10:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what feels comfortable with u. if he truly loves u then he will wait till u are ready. but beware!!! he may stay with u but be looking for a "relief" somewhere else. keep ur eyes open! good luck. take ur time. u will know when u r ready!
2007-01-09 10:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by babyblues452 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not right he is using u may be, just tell him you are not prepare 4 that now .it is too early wait till marriage then do whatever u want...is he your soul mate ?will u marry him in future..?if you did not decide that till now ,ask him will he marry you..i think he is doing time pass, strictly say no to him..if he is good man he will understand you..there is 10 years difference between you and him....is he perfect match 4 u...decide it 1st then ...think about marry him...good luck..
2007-01-09 10:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by jagrati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like sees you only as a sex object. There is much more to a relationship than only sex. If you don't want to do it, then don't. If he does'nt like it, then send him packing. Wait untyil you are ready, and let no one force you into doing anything you don't feel comfortable doing.
2007-01-09 10:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HEY BE HONEST WITH HIM AND TELL HIM HOW U FEEL. LET HIM KNOW U R NOT READY AND U NEED SOME TIME. IF HE REALLY DOES LOVE U HE WOULD UNDERSTAND IF NOT THEN HE REALLY DOESN'T LOVE U. HE NEEDS 2 RESPECT HOW U FEEL AND THAT IS A MAJOR PLUS IN A RELATIONSHIP. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-09 10:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to him , tell him how u feel about oral sex and that if he loves u he would wait till u ready.
2007-01-09 10:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't wait till your ready leave him! If you don't want to do it, don't do it.
2007-01-09 10:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋