My fiance's friend has been staying with us for like a year now. He has worked maybe 3 months total.he is 37yo. He doesent pay rent when he doesent work but he does work around the house. The thing is he does a half *** job. He doesent clean up after himself. To make a long story short Im missrable with him living here. I have told my fiance but the guy still here. What eles can I do? How can I make him(my fiance) see that its not fair?
2007-01-09 02:04:55 · 24 answers · asked by Missie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, you're going to have to let your fiancee know that YOU, not his friends are going to have to be his first priority if you two are going to get married.
If you haven't sat down with him alone and had a serious, but calm discussion about this with him, do that first. If you have already exhausted the "nice" route....then do the following.
Have a suitcase out when he comes home, and be filling it with your stuff. When he asks you what you're doing, tell him that since living with his buddy seems to be more important than living happily with you, that you are going to let him do it uninteruppted.
It's very likely that you won't have to do much more than that. It will start a conversation, at which point you let him know that while you love him and want to be with him, you aren't wuite sure that he is putting you atr the top of his list, where you should be if you're going to be getting hitched. Give him a time frame to talk to his friend and to have him out, so that this issue will not continue to effect your life and possibly your relationship.
Good Luck and GOD BLESS!
2007-01-09 02:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you will be able to get rid of him is to take away amendities that were easy for him to use before then he will either pick up and leave or straighten up. Make him pay bills or buy his own food. Make him go to get emergency stamps to help around the house. Make him go through the system to get a job. Trust me he will want to leave once you do that.
2007-01-09 10:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Michael C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your fiance just too nice to tell him to leave. Maybe you could tell both of them that you want him to move out so you can be alone with your fiance.
2007-01-09 10:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. Although he will stay as long as you and your finance allows him to. Well, your finacee should know that he is a mooching off of you and him. He is taking advantage of the two of you. Your finacee may need to just come out and let him know that it is time for him to go. He could explain to his friend that you two are really ready for some privacy and would like for him to be able to have some privacy of his own as well.
2007-01-09 10:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by diane t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your house, tell him he has to leave. You don't tell your fiance, you tell him to get his *** out of the house. If your fiance doesn't back you on getting rid of this moocher, then be thankful you found out before you married her. If she is williing to phuck up her relationship with you because of this deadbeat, she isn't worth marrying. Get some balls and don't be a wimp.
2007-01-09 10:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him " honey, we are a young couple that need our space and we also need time to ourselves! This guy that has been living with us is corrupting our lives! He does not clean up after himself and he is not paying rent! It is unfair that I must live with someone that does me ablsolutley no good! He is 37 yrs old, and it is time that he move on! "
2007-01-09 10:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If you fiance likes having his friend there, then there's not a thing you can do about it other than move out.
2007-01-09 10:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tsk. i have the same problem. the "friend" does pay rent, but he's in my face all the time. he comes with us shopping, he goes where ever we go, he went with us to my baby's pedia, he even went with us to my gynaecologist. he eats with us all the time, watches tv with us all the time. whenever my husband goes somewhere without me, he still follows like a dog. and to top it all, he's my husband's officemate. they spend more time together. whenever i complain, i get to be the evil witch. what can you say? until now i'm beating my head trying to solve this problem
2007-01-09 10:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by out of my wit's end 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give your fiance an ultimatum...either the friend goes or you do...personally i wouldnt have let go on a year...you're a better person than me
2007-01-09 10:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by shellbelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you fiance that he made a pass at you.
2007-01-09 10:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by fatherf.lotski 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋