how do you still flirt when you are attached?

Question

i've found someone i love,i've been in love for four years... the thing is that i'm still young,i want to know my other options but i don't want to end up two timing. how do i meet other guys then?

please keep your advice coming....

and what if he doesn't want to leave you?

Answer 1

imagine if your partner did the same to you. it wouldn't be nice, would it? if you wanna flirt, then don't get attached in the first place. be wise, gal!

Answer 2

Flirting is "mini two timing" - really.

If you want to know your other options - and don't want to two time - the answer is simple. Tell the person you're attached to that you want out of the relationship. That's the only fair and considerate way to do it. Your partner cannot blame you for wanting to know other men in your life. Many women regret marrying their first love and never knowing what else was out there.

DON'T try to "see what else is out there" before leaving this person. It would be unfair to flirt or go behind your partners back. So - if you want to explore your other options - you must be brave and tell your partner of your desire. Be kind. Tell them exactly what you are doing and why.

AND - do NOT give them false hope that you will be back. It's very unfair to leave someone sitting around waiting for your return when it might not happen. Even if they are willing to do it!

Now if the thought of being straight with the one you love - basically breaking up with them - seems absolutely horrible and something you could never do - then your only other honorable choice is to stay with them forever.

Change is hard but sometimes it's truly for the best. You've come to a point in your life where change may be the best thing for you - and it's presenting a less than palatable situation in order for it to happen. I have a very dear friend who has an incredibly wise saying: "You don't have to like the situation - but it's very important to like YOURSELF in the situation" It basically means that things will be hard sometimes - but you should ALWAYS be honorable - and not do things you'll regret later - just because the situation was a tough one.

Please - don't do anything that you wouldn't want somebody to do to you. Think about it. If your partner was feeling this way (and he may be) - would you like it if he just started flirting with other girls and then when he found one he liked - left you because he'd found another option? Wouldn't you rather he come to you and be straight with you about what's going on in his head and his heart?

So - my answer to "How do you still flirt when you are attached?" is.... You don't.

Hope things work out for you!

Answer 3

1) Playing around is definitely not an option if you have any character at all.
2) You may be feeling mid-life or you may truly be missing "the single, standing on your own two feet experience"... You should not cut yourself short on that. It's a very important life lesson for all of us.
3) Maybe you have gotten into a committed relationship too soon in life...
- This would be my choice if I had to guess..
- In this case, you should take a break from the relationship, go out and date a little... and hope the guy is still available when you are ready to come back. You can't expect him to sit around and wait for your return... you may never return, and he should get on with his life... On the other hand, since you are questioning what better pastures may await, you owe it to yourself to gain this experience by living it... It's the only way you will truly know the difference between the "single life" and the "couple life"...
A tough decision for you, I know...
- Good luck, hope I helped.

Answer 4

I would think that if your in Love like you say. Then their would be no desire to meet other guys. And if you have the feeling that your still young and want to go out and meet other men then maybe your not ready for a serious relationship. Now don't get me wrong. Once you are in a established relationship, and as long as your partner knows that you like to flirt with other men and is okay with that, then it is okay to flirt. But never behind your partners back, because then your just asking for trouble.

Answer 5

Open dating is not a crime. It's the American way. The thing is, you should be honest with everyone. Tell your boyfriend you want to date other people too. The ticket is here that you shouldn't be sexually active until you're married.

The one thing that I heard in this question was you've been "in love" for four years. Being in love is not common. You can always find someone to love, but you may never find someone else you are in love with.

Answer 6

If you sure that's someone you love then, why are you looking for other options? besides there was one situation I have experienced i'm 22 yrs I was so in love with this chick and she broke my heart. That was about 5 yrs ago. I was madly in love with her to such a degree that I did not realize that I was still young and I need to go out and have fun. What I'm trying to say is "if you think and/or you know that you are still young do not commit to any relationship cause you gonna be missing out to a lot of thingz" that's what happened to me.
If you having doubts just follow your instincts!

Answer 7

You need to end your relationship before you start looking for another guy. It's almost like you are staying in your relationship as a back up in case you don't find another guy. That's not right at all... That's why getting into a relationship young is never a good idea. You never get to experience anything when you are tied down so young.

Answer 8

well i have been in a realyionship for seven years and i am only 22 years old.i flirt all the time.you just have to know your limits.touching is off limits if it is more then a hug.hugs our nice.have you ever heard the saying"yoy can look but don't touch".flirting is perfectly heathly you can even ask a married woman,she does it to. like i said you just have to know your limits,so when in a deep conversation with another guy don't get to serious because they might think that you are coming onto them.plus i think that flirting brings a lil bit more hype to your realtionship.so go ahead flirt hunny!have lil bit of fun!

Answer 9

You don't--it's just that simple. If you interested in obtaining the attention of other guys, then you need to examine whether you are really 'in love' at this point in your life. It sounds like you still want to sow your wild oats, and if that's the case let that guy off the hook b/c he may want to do the same. You're not ready to be in an exclusive relationship since you want to meet other guys.

Answer 10

Can't you just make friends in school or work? You don't have to meet them outside of work/school/whatever, right? Cheaters suck--please don't become one!