A woman continues to have an adulterous relationship with a married man.They have children born from this relationship and she asks God for forgiveness but continues to have an intimate relationship with this man will God continue to forgive her even though she continues her relationship with this man?
2007-01-09 01:35:11 · 40 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is not me.I am in fact the wife of the adulterous husband trying to figure out if I should forgive but leave
2007-01-09 01:37:06 · update #1
I know my husband is to blame but she was passed off as a friend and said that she too is christian but I just want to know if she ever pondered her relationship with God knowing that The man who she was involved with is married or did she just think that if she asks for forgiveness she will get it and live happily ever after.
As for my husband though I love him with all my heart all I can do is to pray for him and separate myself from him until he sorts himself out if he still wants this marriage.
As for the bothof them Ido not think that neither of them has the fear of God in them
2007-01-09 02:07:20 · update #2
I would leave without hesitation. God does not need to forgive you at all, you need to protect yourself. It is your husband that needs to beg for Gods forgiveness for the sin hes committed against God and yourself. The fact he has had children with the other woman who is not his wife, shows his lack of honour and respect for you.
2007-01-09 01:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by aingelic1 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
God forgives. But you can not live in sin.
I had a problem like this - my ex broke up with me for a married woman. And I thought it was horrible. How could he wreck someones home? Then she left him and we got back togehter - now they are talking again! I had too much pride and kciked him to the curb. Me or her and Im not playing second string to no one.
Even if i was the mother of his child. Id get some big settlement in court and sit on my butt all day long.
You can not USE GOD. you do not kill,lie cheat,steal,commit adultrey ask for forgiveness then turn around and do it again.
I would leave. I know you didnt ask that - butyou deserve so much better. Even if its alone for a while and living by God.
God will bring you a good man into your life. I dont agree with divorce all the time but I think situations like this are different.
Dont be a doormat.....A book recommended to me is Why Men love Bi*ches. Its great.
I hope things turn out ok.
2007-01-09 01:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God helps those who help themselves.Your husband is the real sinner here, (not to mention pig). The woman in the affair has asked for forgiveness, but she isn't doing anything to stop the sin, so she's screwed until she makes things right.
As for you, you have to decide if you want to live in this personal hell. Help yourself and God will help you. Get out now. They have children together you can bet it isn't going to end. So for the rest of your life you will be the other woman in your own marriage.
Look at it from the other womans point of view for a min. also: She has children with this man. Do you think she is going to just let him go and deprive her children of a father? Probably not. So she will always be there. You need to make a choice if you are willing to sacrifice your happiness, and why?
2007-01-09 01:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have narrowed your options to achieve a well balanced answer to your question by saying "Question for christians please"
Fortunately I think you have been offered some good advice from both Men and Women of any religion or culture.
As one woman to another, if you cannot imagine life without your husband stay with him, if the situation is making you so unhappy leave him.
Ask yourself what you think God would have you do?
You have permission to change your answer to that question any time.
I don't think God intends any one to be unhappy.
It is not really something for you to consider regarding your God's choice on forgiving him or her.
What feels right in your own being?
To be blunt I think the people in question are governed by what is between there legs, although I could be wrong and they may love each, either way they are not taking into account your feelings.
I think you should make judgement on what is best for you and act on it.
God Bless - Be Strong - Remember - What IS right and wrong about this situation for YOU.
2007-01-09 02:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jewel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say whether or not this woman and man proclaim to be a believers. The Scriptures state that " you will know them (true believers in Jesus) by their fruit". Yes, we are all sinners, but a true believer will repent, which translated from the original Greek means " to turn away" as in " doing a 180, if you will, and ask God for His forgiveness. If we con't to commit the same sin against God over and over, are we truly one of His? Read the book of James, chapter 1. There you'll find that God gives us wisdom for how to "act and react". As for what God says regarding adultery, you will find that in His ten commandments and much is said in the new Testament books also. My answer,opinion, beliefs just touches this age-old subject. Go to God's Word and you will find all the answers you'll ever need for living a holy and pleasing life for the Lord Jesus. Ultimately, you are only accountable for your own actions.
2007-01-09 02:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by msbauer65 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Biblical answer probably isn't going to help here. I mean, sure, you can get a divorce, but according to Jesus, remarriage is adultery, so let's just talk without the Bible.
This man is hurting you. Badly. He's behaving poorly and he's got no reason to change his ways. You're willing to let him move at him own pace to "sort things out" and his girlfriend doesn't care that he's married. Why should he pick one of you when he can get illicit sex and a homecooked meal from his harem of two?
The first thing you need to decide is if you want to keep this man. If you do, you need to set up boundaries, "Stay put or leave completely." And if he DOES pick you over his sex toy, you need to expect him to go to marriage counseling so this doesn't happen again. If he leaves or if you dump him, remember that you are a beautiful worthwhile woman and you don't need some shmuck like that dragging you down. Join a gym or volunteer at a soup kitchen - it'll help, I promise.
If you do decide to get involved with a man again, take it slow and make certain he's got enough integrity to be true to you no matter what. Good luck and brightest blessings.
Oh, and as for that woman: Women who fool around with married men are scum. Simple as that.
Edit: And stop feeling guilty for being p!ssed off. You SHOULD be angry - this man is treating you like dirt. As long as you keep doing the woe-is-me Christian act, he's just going to abuse your kindness. Good luck! :)
2007-01-09 02:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness comes from a turning away from the sin and a desire not to go back to it. If you are living in sin, there is no forgiveness for it until the person turns away from it. If this is what your husband is doing, I would say forgive him on your part but leave him if he is going to be with another woman. We are told to forgive but not to condone sin and stay in it when the other is sinning against us as your husband is. Time to make a choice for him, either you or the other woman. Sounds like he has made his choice. Move on and get out before you get a bad disease.
2007-01-09 01:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by ramall1to 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must forgive. Bitterness eats away at you like a cancer. It literally makes you sick.
It is not possible to love God and to hate someone. Jesus said how could we love Him who we haven't seen and say we hate our brother who we have seen.
An adulterous person does not enter heaven. God knows her heart not me, but a true God fearing Christian does not behave in this manner. When the Holy Spirit comes in He starts purifying and refining us and eliminating sins not increasing sin.
Pray for her and your husband and ask God to intervene. Marriage is sacred to God and He can change your husband's heart.
God holds your husband responsible because he is the head of the family.
Don't blame her, blame your husband. If he continues this relationship leave him. You are taking abuse after abuse to the point that you are not rational. He has hurt you more than once.
God doesn't want any of us to hurt. You are hurting. Leave him.
2007-01-09 02:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go and sin no more. That were Jesus Christ's words to the adultress. The Bible talks about the fruit of repentance. That means to change your ways and stop sinning. God only forgives sin after repentance.
Try to win your husbands affection back to you, if possible. Maybe you tried everything already, I don't know. I recently read some very good advice on how to do this in a book called "Created to be his helpmeet" by Debi Pearl. It would be great if you'd read this before giving up on your marriage. If you can't go on, well it's your Biblical right to get a divorce, would be sad though.
2007-01-09 01:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jayne R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God may forgive her.
Probably only
a) when this mess is sorted out
b) when she sincerely apologises to you.
it is that age old problem. does God forgive someone if they ask for forgiveness if they carry on? answer no.
if they were truly repentant they would not do it. sorry is worthless in that instant.
i lived in "sin" for 6 years with my ex. I went to Church, even taking my children there. I made my peace with God over this matter. some Christians would say He could not have accepted my relationship at all. My answer is that God is a remarkably good spokesman for Himself. He is also a truly loving Father who wants us to be happy!
u have to remember that God still loves them, even if they are sinning. Most Christians believe that we are ALL sinners needing forgiveness. If so, who is to judge them. Let he/she who has no sin cast the first stone!!
God bless u.
xxxx
2007-01-09 01:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD doesn't work like that.
If she continues the adulterous relationship, she is obviously not sincere when she asks for forgiveness. To ask for forgiveness without repenting means you KNOW you're doing wrong and you want to get away with it. It doesn't surprise me to find that some chick that's self centered enough to think it's okay to sleep with some woman's husband would be arrogant enough to think they can reduce GOD to an amnesty dispenser.
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2007-01-09 01:42:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋