Im 16 and in 5 months ill be 17 and i want to move out can I?

Question

Im adopted by these weird people that ive been with for a year and they wont let me see my rreal mom and little brother!!! Mom mom was adicted to drugs when she was 19 years old and lost custody of me but she is now 34 and has recovered!!! I dont understand why all the other people ive lived with allowed me to see her but they wont!!! Can i leave when im 17???

Answer 1

you can leave whenever you might be considered a runaway but you have the power to leave whenever you want..its a choice of yours you may have to deal with the results..or the other way is to check with a lawyer who offers a free consult for the first visit and ask your question to them also sometimes you can get free advise on line or at the courthouse..cause each state has different laws about your question...

Answer 2

Your current parents obviously have custodial rights and until you are you 18 they are in control. Now you do have certain rights that can 'override' the rights of parental control. However, having these rights granted isn't that easy. I would suggest you proceed in this manner.

1. Sit down with your adoptive parents and explain your desire and LISTEN to what they have to say. In this first meeting explain that you want to just say your piece and then listen to their side.. and no decision should be made.
2. Give it a few days for you and them to think about what was said and gather your thoughts.
3. Sit down with them again and IF you are still wanted to see your biological mom explain that you have given it a lot a thought and you want to start the process to see her.
4. Explain that you are willing to have a family counselor work with you and them and your mom to help transition all of you into this new 'multi-party' relationship.
5. Listen with an open mind to the couselor and make sure your desire for seeing your mom isn't overshadowing the possible BAD side effects.

If you approach your current adoptive parents with a way to see your mom that includes professional counseling then they should be more willing to work with you. Just demanding they 'give you what you want' or you'll move out is no way to solve anything.

As for the moving out... unless you are completely 100% self supportive (Job, savings, transportation, etc.) you can't legally move out.. if you do.. your adoptive parents will have the police find you and bring you back. The disruption to your education and your family's life (including your brother's life) will not be worth your feeble attempt to FORCE the issue.

Good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 3

First find out from your Mom if you can stay with her. Because in order to be legally out of the house you must prove you have a place to live and a way to support yourself in order to get the okay.
But its been over 10 years since your Mom lost your custody, it should be okay.. the only reason I can see the people you live with now could protest is if they are getting money to support you from social services then they might fight it.
Check with a counselor they will know the procedures to legally do this.

Answer 4

Where do you intend to go? Do you have a job or money to take care of yourself? Why not call a lawyer and just ask them. Some lawyers don't charge for the first visit.

If you just move out, they may say you are a runaway and that could lead to trouble that you don't need. Your adopted parents could be jealous of your real mother, that could be why they won't let you see her.

I hope you the best.

Answer 5

well if you are adopted then they keep you from seeing your real mom i kno for a fact that you cant move out b/c im 17 and when o was 16 i tried to leave and move in wit a friend and my parents tried to call me as a run away so it wont work but if you realize they are doing wut they think is best for you but they may not always kno wutz best for a 16 almost 17 year old so i would sit down with them and see if they would let her come over and have dinner with you in front of them.(and if they wont let you see your little brother then thats kinda grimmy) it seems like they are tryin to keep you from your real family like they are the only family you got but they arent i would see them eaither way but try the good way first with them comeing over fior dinner......see how it goes and then if it dont work i would see them anyways.

Answer 6

your caught in a situation that many adopted kids face.
We adopted a little girl but through the years we always allowed her to have contact with the mother but under supervision as it involved abuse.
Th e bad thing is you know your mother is there and will always have the desire to see her.
This is something your adopted parents need to think about and understand. Too many are so wrong about letting a adopted child h ave contact with the birth parents.
As for your situation, yes, you probably could move out, but you need to know what your laws are concerning this in your location.
Some states permit what is called emancipation.
perhaps you could check with someone who has knowledge of this in your area.
However , be sure this is what you want and be sure of your relationship with your birth mother.
Good luck

Answer 7

if your mother is capable enough to take care of you and have a job then talk to a counsellor to unite you with your mother but at your age it will be hard for a cousellor to allow you to go anywhere without assurance from some that guaranties your safety

Answer 8

ur mother has to get custody of you in court. or maybe when ur 18 leave

Answer 9

Not unless you have been emancipated. Talk with your welfare agency that placed you in this house. If they really thought that there was problems, they wouldn't have put you there.