I've met this 41-year-old Italian guy online and he would like to meet me. He's coming to my country and he asked me if I wanted to spend some days with him in a hotel. He also asked me for my phone number. I've told him I don't know the code for my country, which is true, and I'm still thinking if I really should meet him.
2007-01-09 01:32:15 · 24 answers · asked by Analyst 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How old are you? You appear to be a little young. Why are you trying to meet someone who is 41 anyways?? And why would he want you to spend some time with you in a hotel? You need to be careful. I've dated a couple guys on line so I'm an not nixing that it is a decent way to meet people. Actually four of my friends met their husbands that way. You just need to have your eyes open and be safe. :)
2007-01-09 01:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends on certain factors and conditions. Have you been talking to him for a long time? Do you trust him (which perhaps might not be the case since you are asking this question now and apparently have some apprehension and doubts but they could just be normal jitters and concerns I suppose)? Would he be coming in close to where you live? I mean if he is in a hotel close by perhaps if you really want to pursue it, meet him for a 'date' (and not to stay with him) and do so in a public place and take it from there. I don't think there is anything wrong with people meeting off of the internet and think that its just another means to finding people that you would not normally be exposed to who may be extremely compatible with you but I think that in any instance some amount of caution needs to be exercised. If you do choose to meet him for as I said a 'date' beyond doing it in public, perhaps you could bring a friend along and also inform others of where you will be, when you'll be there, and have some sort of check up time to call them to let them know that everything is ok. I wish you the best of luck if you do choose to meet him because you never know what can come out of it (my mom who is from Ny and step-dad who is from Scotland met online a few years ago got married and I really couldn't ask for a better step-dad) but you have to exercise a great deal of caution because until you've actually met, you don't necessarily know for certain who this person really is. Good luck and take care :)
2007-01-09 02:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say if you should or shouldn't met the guy as that is your own decision. You should take into account how long you've been talking with him. If I were you I wouldn't give out my number, and if you want to met him be sure to arrange to met him in a very public place during the day and don't go to his hotel with him.
2007-01-09 01:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by tink.faery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... well it depends on how old u are... I think if u do go threw wit it which u probably will i say u meet him in a public and safe place, see how that goes. Dont spend anytime wit him in a hotel alone right away.. just becareful looks could be deceiving now a days u cant trust anyone!!!!
2007-01-09 01:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by chino_11_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD ARE YOU BY THE WAY??
well, i think you have to avoid meeting him, coz, a good guy will never invite a nice girl like you to come and spend some days in hotel, if you accept his over, he will think you are an EASY girl. be smart, girl.
2007-01-09 01:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by OLGA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just meet him in public place first. And meeting him in a hotel will be a little bit over. Maybe u can arrange this after meeting him in a public place for a while. By this, u can know who he is in reality......i hope i answer your question...
2007-01-09 02:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Hussien H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ill be honest, i wouldnt suggest, for if you do, be careful. My ex girlfriend started online dating after i broke up with her for cheating. She met two guys in the span of a month. The first guy just wants some A$$ and after getting some head, left. The second guy she slept with, and wound up with Two STD's for it. So just be careful, im not saying your a slut like my ex, but you never know.
2007-01-09 01:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by Irish ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really like him you should go for it. But a hotel? Hell no. You should meet in a busy area in town or something. Then maybe see how it goes.
2007-01-09 01:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by Game Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it......No way.. to risky, there are some weirdos online lately, this guy sounds susspicious, no way go to a hotel with him, he may seem nice till you get to the hotel...forget him, please..dont do it...they hide behind the computer screens n can say anything to lull you into a false sense of security, you cant be sure even if you see his picture its him, DONT DO IT PLEASE, its tooo dangerous
2007-01-09 01:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by mummsie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be careful because you're putting yourself into very dangerous waters. You dont know anything about this guy and he could be dangerous. I'd do a security background check
2007-01-09 01:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋