a while ago my boyfriend and I were making love and we were very happy.... but on the second time He just couldn't do it. We waited for 10 or 15 mins and he still couldn't hold an erection or anything... He was very embarassed and everything but I told him not to worry. Now everytime we make love the second time or even if we haven't made love in the day... he has trouble keeping an erection...why is that? we get al excited and want to be together but it just doesn't work. He is 20 and I'm 19..help pls!!
2007-01-09 01:31:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this dissappoints you now, wait until he is 40.
PRESSURE is the biggest erection killer out there. If you are pushing for round two and he is afraid he can't do it, he likely won't succeed.
Give it more time. 10-15 min is sometimes enough but maybe not. Sometimes the best thing is for the guy to go like nuts and come real fast, then take a good 20-30 min licking her all over, making her feel good. By then, they BOTH want round two.
2007-01-09 01:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry, a lot of guys have difficulty the second time around! Communication is key here, talk it out (but definitely not in the moment). You need to talk outside the bedroom. Is there something bothering him - school, family, job, friends? Any problem can translate to issues with erections.
2007-01-09 09:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you using condoms? I have that problem when I use condoms, I get this erection and its this sad looking half covered sausage like someone started taking off the wrapper and desided not to eat the sausage because it was to sad looking or something. I mean, this is why I cant have one night stands.
2007-01-09 09:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Afro-Joe the American Hero! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having had happen to me, I understand, He can be too excited and think about too much, too excited and the blood rushs back to the heart. Tell him your just gonna fool around with no othere expectations, the pressure must be taken off to preform and than it will happen.
2007-01-09 09:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bob B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your putting alot of stress on the situation expecting to much out of it. Stress is usually the main cause for concern in that department....
2007-01-09 09:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Game Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's 20 years old then I'd tell him to go to the doctor, it may be a health issue!
2007-01-09 09:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he on any meds or mabye stressed or depressed? That's something to look into. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. That may make matters worse.
2007-01-09 09:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Performance anxiety.
He needs to relax and not force things
2007-01-09 09:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens to every man. It doesn't mean anything.
Most likely he's tired. His willy does need its rest to you know. Don't wear the poor thing out on him!
2007-01-09 09:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ministry of Camp Revivalism 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that happens... The little guy just has a mind of his own... sometimes oral sex will bring him back to life, sometimes not... you just never know with him...
2007-01-09 09:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋