Yesterday was my boyfriends birthday. About a week or so ago I asked him if he would like to go to a comedy club (my Moms treat) on this day. He said he would take the day off.... well on sat. I reminded him and he said he HAD to work. No big deal cause if you have to work what more can u do? So On sunday night he spoke to his boss and he gave him the day off... so great now he can go. Tickets were already bought and paid for. So yesterday he tells me that he hsa somethin very important to do and he cannot go. Then he tells me the reason is because of the BCS title game. Now I am an understanding person...As a HUGE NASCAR fan I can appreciate not wanting to miss an event such as a title game, If it were the daytona 500 I wouldn't have went either... but that doesn't mean I cannot be disapointed with him and a little angry. its not like there wasnt 800 TVs with the game playing where we went. any way mor to come, please check back
2007-01-09 01:08:09 · 9 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had to go cause my mom bought the tickets so i didn't even get to spend his birthday with him. he actually got upset with me for being upset and I apoligized to him...tell me your thought on this one
2007-01-09 01:12:54 · update #1
Point of interest: You made the plan with him a week in advance. While you can live with the results, you don't have to like them.
Tell him it's not the end of the world, but you shouldn't have to hide how you feel either.
You apologized because you don't want the situation to blow up into something bigger. You are submitting to the situation and letting it slide. Don't make a habit of that.
Also, don't listen to the shallow ones who tell you to dump him. Any relationship needs work and clearly you are willing to work at it. Best to you both.
2007-01-09 01:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need for you to apologize at all. It sounds a little like your boyfriend...and this is a maybe... didn't know how to tell you what he really wanted to do, watch a football game. Don't feel bad about this, I've been married for 30 years and sometimes still have the same problem with my wife...it's still hard for me to tell her I want to watch a game vs. doing something with her...guys just don't want to disappoint the ladies in our lives. But, I've gotten to the point that I know it's nothing wrong for me to do what I want, and let her do the same.
It's not a war, but it can seem like a 'battle' some times. Just make the battles over minor items like this, and the war over the the items that help maintain a long term relationship.
2007-01-09 09:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by mottthedog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hasnt he ever heard of a VCR or DVR? He could have recorded that game and watched it later so he could enjoy his birthday present you and your mom got for him. You shouldnt have apologized to him for not spending his birthday with him, he made that decision himself when he decided to watch a stupid game rather than go with you to the comedy club. Heck yea Id be angry at him for backing out at the last minute, Id let him know in no certain terms that I wasnt gonna do anything special for him anymore just for this reason. Call me vindictive, but we girls gotta stand up for ourselves or those men will walk all over us!!
2007-01-09 09:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by lilsis3070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has priorities in life and some are more important than others. It depends on each person's perspective and view of things. It was his B-Day so if that was what he wanted to do then that was his choice and decision.
Why get stressed over something so small?
Life's too short enjoy it ............. Don't Sweat the small stuff
2007-01-09 09:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by tyree c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That game was not scheduled the day before, if it was that important to him he would have told you at the git-go. You owe no apology, and if he cannot understand your being miffed with him and see the error of his inconsiderate ways I would advise you to start shopping for a new boyfriend keeping this one’s behavior in mind.
2007-01-09 09:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by thecarolinacowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got all the right to be dissapointed when you go through that and you have the right to be a little angry for sure the next time make sure you dont have to be dissapointed for the same things
2007-01-09 09:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is to short to put up with this let him know that why you got upset is the fact that he knew about this for awhile then chose to whats tv you can do better than puting up with this .
2007-01-09 09:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, that is not cool. I'd dump him if I were you! I would never do that to a woman - even if I was playing her...
2007-01-09 09:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by dannywahlberg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur b/f is treating you like garbage. Dump the moron.
2007-01-09 09:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋