I have suffered with depression for years. Actually, as far back as I can remember. I have never been medicated or even gotten help for it. I have just dealt with it. Most of the time I can feel it coming on, feel the despair setting in. Most of the time, I just go with it. I find it somewhat comforting to be in that despair. My question is this...Is this anywhere near rational? To be comfortable in your suffering? To actually want to sometimes?
I am not one of those people who try to end it all either. I'm perfectly happy being alive. I just find it easier to be in that mindset. What do you think? Been there? How did you deal? Is there really any real way out of this hell?
2007-01-09 00:58:48 · 10 answers · asked by ♫ Insane_Princess ♪ 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I can really understand what you're saying and there are times that I still struggle with depression even though I've gotten treatment for it in the past.
Speaking from my own experiences, I'm not sure if it's that you find comfort in suffering or being depressed, it's just what you're USED to. When a person feels a certain way for a long period of time it can be kind of scary or feel strange to begin feeling another way. So naturally they will retreat to what they are used to and end up equating that with comfort. I'm not sure if I'm explaining this right or not but I hope you get an idea of what I mean.
Changes can be hard and frightening, even positive changes. I think a lot of it has to do with patterns too and breaking out of those patterns. For instance, in the past if I felt depression coming on I would retreat, just drop out of living for days and what would happen is that I'd feel even worse and terribly isolated. The depression I was feeling was biological but my behavior of retreating was a pattern. So I had to learn to change that pattern whenever that feeling would come up so that the depression wouldn't get worse.
There's no way that anyone can get away completely from suffering, it's just part of life and can sometimes be a good learning experience and a way for us to grow emotionally. But there's no reason to suffer needlessly so I really hope you'll find some help for your depression. You've been going through this for a long time as was the case with me too, but it is possible for life to improve. Medications can be helpful but typically treatment for depression also includes cognitive or behavioral therapy which helps the person find ways to cope with their feelings in constructive ways and break out of negative patterns. There is a way out of the hell you're in and I hope that you'll be able to get out of it soon. Take care :)
2007-01-09 02:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..
But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.
Helping you eliminate depression?
2016-05-16 06:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression shows in my mother's side of the family too. And we usually just find ways to deal with it because we can't quite afford professional treatment.
It's not really rational- but it is logical, when you believe you have no real alternatives. If that makes sense. It gives you a way to endure.
Try to get some treatment: You might find you actually feel a lot better and will wonder how you tolerated it all this time.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 01:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am disabled from back surgery I had over 4 years ago and
I have been depressed over being out of work and not making money and going bankrupt with my bills and having bad credit and feeling bad most of the time...
I have gone to therapy and different doctors and am on
different kinds of medication right now...
I have been depressed about being out of work mostly with
no money making skills and unable to be hired for any kind
of job due to the fact that I have a hard time walking and standing...
I stay in my house a lot and play on the computer and watch movies and TV...Sometimes I don't go out for days...
I have found 2 things that help me...
One is to make a list of projects or errands you want to do or places you want to go on certain days of your week...
Just a simple list of I need to go here and I need to go there...
The other thing I found that helps is to actually talk to someone, be it a friend, a counselor, a minister, a psychiatrist, or doctor...
Just talk to someone who will listen to you and offer advice...
That helps me a lot just to talk out my problems with someone else in person...
2007-01-09 01:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being this state of depression obviously serves something for you. it has someone been subconciously reinforced into you to be okay. i do strongly suggest therapy for you. it is not an easy journey and it will appear to get worst before it gets better. however, in the long run, it will help you better understand yourself as no one can really give you the answers about you. this sounds like a very self sabotaging behaviour. it really makes no sense to me that you are happy about depression since a true depressive is incapable of feeling the happiness during an episode. you need to seek professional help.
2007-01-09 03:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god I'm the same way. I find comfort in being depressed. It helps me write and enjoy music. Weird huh? Except I am the kinda person that does want to end it all..anyways I've been there, in fact I'm there right now! lol I'm not sure how to deal with it. I'm so glad I'm not the only one!
2007-01-09 01:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not such a crazy question. I've struggles with depression forever and I hate it, but at the same time, I am almost comfortable there because it is so familiar. (It's also good for my writing.)
2007-01-09 09:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a crazy question there are answers out there i think you should see mental health and get a low does of medication it really does work i feel your pain get a little help your alright rock on
2007-01-09 01:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was almost in the same situation. I got medicated and it works. Just a little generic pill has helped me. They wanted me to do counseling but that was worthless. You may just have a chemical imbalance.
2007-01-09 01:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by BamaJJP 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
^^ you've found a friend!
Both of you can be happy now!
2007-01-09 01:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋