i keep him alive b-coz he needs me to stand by him and his mother and father treats him just as bad.they are horrible people.i wana know how to overcome this hate that i have for them....
2007-01-09 00:58:10 · 6 answers · asked by poesycat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Believe it or not he will survive...He needs to learn to stand on his own two feet and be a man....
2007-01-09 01:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're absolutely sure go for it, but don't decide less you're sure.
(I was in this position mid last year so trust me on this. I cried because it was hurting him so much.)
He sounds like you are the only good thing he has, and family are like enemies to him. If this is true, then it's natural to feel guilty. You know the pain you'll cause. But what must be done must be done. And it is not your fault if it does not work. Everyone goes through pain. Don't put yourself through agony because he can't get over his.
Since you sound like you really care for him, consider this.
He has two feet. He can stand on his own. But don't just disconnect. Let him know he can still come to you with anything, and you'll be there------as a friend only-------. Tell him you will always remember what you had as a couple, and you look forward both of you experiencing things alone.
I still talk to my ex. We gave gifts at Christmas and everything. He still wants to get back together, which irritates me a little, but I'm glad he there is no animosity and we can still talk.
2007-01-09 01:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by ancientSEKHMET 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he very ill? On life support? If so then help to put him in a good nursing home. Is he mentally ill? Get him help with a center that helps people like this almost every medium sized cities have these centers. He need to learn how to take care of himself.You only know his side of the story concerning his parents. There always is three side to every story your Man's side, his parents side and the real truth.You could grow tired of taking care of him just as maybe his parents have.Then with the next woman you as well will be a bad one. He'll always be a victim, That is the kind of personality he has I seen this many times before.He has learned that this works, being a victim works for many women it brings out the neutering aspect in our personalities.Until you learn that these types of men are users and you are in fact their victim you are doomed to repeat this scenario over and over again.
2007-01-09 01:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to work on you, and then work on the word of hate, hate takes up too much of your energy, it will zap you. Now in a clear mind sit down, and try and think about the situation that you are in, and talk to your husband and try and find out how he wants things to turn out. now if he is not on the same wave of thoughts as you, just be honest with him, and explain, that things has gotten to much for you to handle, and that it will be in the best interest for you to do what is best for you, say I have tried, but it is not working, Ask God to give you the strength, to make the right decision. Don"t forget, don"t hate anyone it is not worth your time and effort, what you have to do is, as long as you know that you are doing the right thing, be cordial, speak, and leave people like that alone. Move in a different circle of people. Move out and start thinking of what is in the best interest of you, this is a New Year. so start of with a smile"
2007-01-09 01:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll survive without you, you aren't keeping him alive. Sounds like he's layed a real guilt trip on you. Or his parent have.
Stay if you love him. If not, go.
2007-01-09 01:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep him alive? what are you saying? can you be clearer in your question!
2007-01-09 01:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋