It seems to be a deeply ingrained thing whereby I'm always conscoiously or unconsciously comparing - things like personality traits and popularity, not really worldly material things. It leads to envy and me switching between superior and inferior feelings every day. Why can I just not simply accept myself and others without having to compare and compete?
2007-01-09 00:55:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to be happy with your good qualities and work on those not so good, and forget about what everyone else does.
2007-01-09 01:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you didn't mention your age. A lot of pre-teen and teenagers feel this way. You aren't necessarily alone with these feelings. Others probably are looking at you and thinking the same things which is perfectly normal. It is only when it consumes your brain constantly every day that you may need a little help from a professional to help you deal with any underlying reason you are doing this excessively. There are so many reasons a person has a unusual low self-esteem. I cant tell you without sitting down and talking with you the reasons you cannot accept yourself. Seek out a counselor to start with and see how that goes. Good luck to you.
2007-01-09 01:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by twildman22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the best question I have heard here so far.
I also suffer from similar traits and have spent a while trying to figure it. It's definitely tied up with self image but that's not all of it I'm sure...
There is obviously as with me some sort of bug in our operating system that will not let go and I must admit I have not solved it for myself either,,,
There are times though depending on the person where I can considerably reduce it's impact. So on one level I think we are very much reacting to others let alone ourselves so it very much depends on who you meet. If we meet people who to our senses are very 'together' we sometimes feel inferior but that's OK maybe we are and that's ok to...
Since then that let some pressure off.because I understand many of the ways that were are 'shock' not all equal which is OK as well what your good at they are not etc...
The superior one has less of an impact on me these days because the more I understand how this works somehow the less the pressure is inside. But I am still far from happy with it all..
I dunno if any of this rings a bell but I hope it helps........
2007-01-09 01:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by farshadowman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are constantly comparing yourself to others because you have not yet found self acceptance.
However, because you are asking the right questions means you are willing to have a look at yourself.
You are brave and honest, and that is a good start.
When you get feelings of shame,and a high from feeling superior just be aware of what s going on with you, and ask yourself...is this what i want, and is ist the truth what i am thinking.
this is one small excercise.
this all stems from childhood patterns. growing up with a mother who is not available emotionaly. you are o.k.
2007-01-09 01:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a moment to think about the traits you are the most proud of. Once you do that, be thankful for those gifts
It may not be easy to get rid of the jealousy, but if you train your mind to be happy with what YOU have and not yearn for what anyone else wants, you'll be a lot happier.
2007-01-09 01:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by icysapphire64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats something you have to find out yourself. If I were you I would write down all the traits I have that I think are good about myself and all the things that need improving. Try building your self esteem remember you may be looking at people and be comparing yourself to them but for all you know they could be doing the same thing to you!
2007-01-09 01:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by ~Romantic_Dreamer~ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 10:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the attention you give to others to yourself. Don't look at others for a while, look only at the things you want for yourself, what you like, what makes you happy.
Noticing that it's not good to make comparisons and how it's making you feel was a great start.
2007-01-09 01:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ixtan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Social comparison is a part of identity development, and is very big in adolescence. Everyone makes social comparisons, though they, along with insecurities, tend to decrease in age with a strengthening identity.
2007-01-09 01:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by Created A Madman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh... everyone compares themselves to someone, just don't compare to every other idiot. Let it be someone good, or totally hot! If you can improve yourself in some way, there's no harm!
2007-01-09 01:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋