Rude Children...?

Question

First: On my bus I am regarded as a weirdo.
2nd: As I got the bus to day my mom got into her car wearing a somewhat funky out fit (it is purple and has painted leaves on it). She was a little bit nervous so she flitted around a bit. Anyways, I heard a kid say "Oh, now I know where she (me) gets it from." He whispered it to his friend. I was going to stomp on his foot or something, I was so mad! What should I do, I don't want to tell my mom 'cause I'm afraid I'll hurt her feelings.

Answer 1

It's hard not to let what other people think bother you, especially when you're still in school. But... the bottom line here is that the kid was being rude.

You can't change his behavior. You can only change the way you feel about it.

The more of a response he gets from you, the more likely he will be to try to get your goat the next time he gets a chance.

Keep this in mind: When a teen makes fun of another teen for something that has to do with their parents, it's generally for one of two reasons. Either they secretly wish their parents were like that (like if they make fun because your parents are strict on you, but they have parents who let them do whatever because they just don't care) or they're just glad it's not THEIR parents embarrassing THEM like that this time because it's happened before (like that one morning last week, before you got on the bus, they were all treated to a glimpse of this kid's dad's butt as he reached for the newspaper in his robe or something.)

I grew up being the weirdo. By the time I was in high school, I was on newspaper staff, wrote the horoscopes and made my Calculus teacher so nervous he had me transferred out of his class to another.

As an adult, I began to fit in and learned that MOST of the population felt like misfits in high school, even when they were the most popular kids... often they didn't realize they were well-liked or felt that most of their relationships were based on their status (cheerleader, Prom Queen, star athlete, etc) and that they didn't have many true friends that they could be open with because they were up on some social pedestal and no one wanted to know they had weaknesses of their own.

At 46 I have a husband, children, friends and I'm respected by my community, educational and medical professionals and I'm successful in every way. This came, in part, from learning to do my own thing, even when those around me thought I was nuts.

Keep doing your own thing. Be you. Love your mom for being herself. It takes a particular inner strength to be her age and not have decided, at some point, to just wear the same dumb clothes everyone else is wearing but to just keep expressing yourself as an individual. One of these days you'll look at her purple shirt with leaves on it and be glad she's not a khaki slacks and polo mom, just blending in with all the others :)

(I know... hard to believe... but true!)

Best to you...

Answer 2

Right now I am dealing with this kind of thing with my own daughter. She has been bullied and taunted since kindergarden and now is in 5th grade. By the same students. She is taller than most kids in her class and is "slightly" overweight...but not fat. But that don't stop the other kids from seeing it differently than a normal person. I keep telling her, as I will you, don't let it get to you(Ya, I know, easier said than done...but stick with it). The more you show that it annoys you the more it shows them they annoy you and will keep doing what they are doing. Start sticking up for yourself and stand your ground. One of the first things to always ask yourself is..is it true? And even if it is...so what! The most likely cause to the taunting is insecurity on their part. They feel better tearing other people down because it takes the focus off themselves. And you're right, don't tell your mom. No need to drag her feelings into it any more than they probably already are knowing her child is being ridiculed. Never be ashamed of who you are or who your family is. Others maybe jealous, insecure, or yes...just plain mean. But don't stoop to their level. Be above it. Show it doesn't bother you while throwing in a little public humiliation does the trick. Every time you are taunted, just say somewhat loudly "Well, that wasn't very nice now was it?", or "Have you looked in the mirror lately, well you should!", or "Ohh, I am so impressed..I never knew you could form complete sentences" and so on and so forth. Anyone with in ear shot will now be focusing on them and not you. Always be on your toes with these kind of people. Always. It may sound funny, but practice at home...of different demeaning comebacks that would give you the one up instead of them. But always do it tactfully, in a way not to completely stoop to their level. Be the better person. You can do it. You have to trust yourself to do it. And if you enjoy being the weirdo, say "Thank you!" Dance to your own music. I do! Good luck....

Answer 3

He's obviously not the brightest star in the sky if he puts a preposition at the end of a sentence. Generally, if people don't understand something, it's because they either have a lack of exposure to anything even remotely different or are otherwise incapable of understanding it. I had that same problem as well, but time marches on and proves that the weird shall inherit the earth.

You should tell your mother if anything is bothering you. That's what mothers are for ;)

Answer 4

You can't live your life worrying about what others have to say. You are an individual, and you must not be afraid to show your individuality. You will realize in time that some people will respect you and like the fact that you're a bit different. Don't let the comments of some rude twit upset you.

Answer 5

Try your best to ignore it. If you show that it bothers you, then they will just bug your more to get a rise out of you. Things get better after school. I always felt like I didn't belong growing up, hated school even though I got good grades.

Now that I am 27, I am my own person living my life, my self esteem is so much better than it was growing up. It doesn't matter what others think, and they probably don't think about you as much as you think they do. It gets easier, just keep moving on and you will do great with your life. I am so independant now, paid for my own university, car, house, and living with my b/f. Things are great now, so much better than before.

Answer 6

do what" big jimi " told you to do!! be proud say it loud to hell with the crowd.------my mom is overweight. when she would pick me up from school some of the kids would laugh or say smarta** things about her (no she never heard)i would get in our car & hug her in front of them.once 1 of the little hiefers wanted to fight me & said something bout my mom being big & i politely laid her a** out.now im old & it didnt help a thing i hit that dumbbutt. she still grew up to be a putz & my mama still loves me.i think you should just be proud you got a mom.so shes a little goofy. i bet theres not one person on here that a parent hasnt embarrassed one time or another.thats part of the job of being a parent we're supposed to do things that will absolutely mortify our children!just go on & believe it or not this too shall pass. i know it dont seem like it now but sugar it will. good luck sweetheart. hope this helped.

Answer 7

You know how wonderful your mom is and how insignificant the kids on your bus are. Focus on the good things in your day. It takes a conscious effort to be a happy person.
Even though today their opinions seem large, someday very soon all of those rude people will be a speck in your rear view mirror of life.
Be proud of yourself and your lovely mom and be happy sweetie
for life is short. Take care and Good luck.

Answer 8

Just ignore the rude remark. Obviously he is noticing you. No one's opinion matters but yours and your mother's. Try not to let it hurt your feelings. Boys are known for being unthinking and obnoxious. Eventually some do grow out of it while others never grow up at all. Build up a tuff exterior and always be proud of who you are and the people who love you.

Answer 9

Too bad you have to suffer now while you are young. As you get older - you won't care about silly stuff like this. Do you like your mom and how she is? Take it as a compliment. I have found that a lot of the kids who were like this growing up are the ones who aren't doing much in life now. I am the one laughing......

Answer 10

Just ignore it, sweetie. You and your mom have your own styles and are your own people, individuals who obviously don't follow the herd. I admire you both. Take care, and don't worry so much about what the imbicile on the bus says. He's just trying to make himself sound "cool" when in fact he sounds like a idiot.