picking up from a point made in my previous question one of the answers given was girls prefer to me mates with exes rather than nothing
why?
does she just want to mess with his head for the sake of it?
2007-01-09 00:34:27 · 16 answers · asked by Music fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at my previous question if you need to see what im on about
2007-01-09 00:35:05 · update #1
I never prefer to be friends with my exes - especially if I had a boyfriend, I think its disrespectful. A current BF wouldnt want to be reminded that another man has shared initimacies with his partner; if he was insecure of not!
I just think its a respect thing - I dont believe that the statement is true personally.
2007-01-09 00:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's definitely not all girls. Sorry you're meeting the wrong type. Maybe you've got to make some big changes in your life, like move away to a completely different country and do a new job. Maybe that will be enough to refresh things enough so that you can see women in a different light. Then, when you return to where you're from, you'll see that it was just an old way of thinking that you had.
Anyway, it's better to worry about yourself than others.
How about checking this out?: www.thework.com (If you want to see how it works, look for some of Byron Katie's videos on youtube).
2007-01-09 00:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mate/friend isn't someone who messes with your head. Some people like to remain friends with exes because there is a bond there. Sharing a romantic relationship with someone doesn't mean they need be enemies or cut ties completely, simply because they discover they aren't a good romantic match. It's kewl when people CAN be friends after dating.
You having an issue with it comes across as insecure. Do you feel threatened by the women you date having contact with their ex(es)?
2007-01-09 00:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually its because girls form a lot of the basis of their attraction to someone on their personality. Obviously they get along really well with most of the people they date and it is usually these people which they want to stay friends with after a relationship ends. Mostly they don't want to mess with your head they may just have decided that you aren't really what they want as a boyfriend but you are still a really great friend.
2007-01-09 00:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think all girl want to be friends with ex's because im a girl, ive tryed with one ex and we went out clubbing and the next thing I know he's asking me to marry him, I ended up walking home from town with him behind me shouting at me why I didnt want to be with me.I would never be friends with a ex.
2007-01-09 06:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by xx angel 3m xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of them like to rub their ex's noses in the fact that they have someone new and have moved on... Others like to keep the ex's close so that they can wait for the guy to realise he made a mistake and wants to come back... Women are weird!!! :D
2007-01-09 00:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex is a comfort zone. It is much easier to deal with someone you already know than to go and find new people or be alone. She does not want to mess with his head, she is just comfortable there. She knows what to expect from him and she knows how to deal with him with or with out a relationship attached.
2007-01-09 00:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please notice that many folks have issues with being "alone". So a lot of these females are into sensationalism. They love the feeling of having someone to claim as their own, but don't wish to actually put in the work and be honest, which is necessary for any true love relationship. Notice that a lot of girls who can't find security with themselves want to "hide" behind somebody, so that they don't have to face themselves.
2007-01-09 01:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Justcool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because girls dont see the point on wasteing months going out with a guy 4 no reason... well i dont anyway... if im going to go out with a guy there is no point wasteing my time doing that if in the end all i end up with is a broken heart... i want to hav sumthing that made it worthwhile... and if we got along when we were together then y cant we get along when we arnt? hope this helps =]
2007-01-09 00:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by becstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know i think when some one wants to still be friends or stay in contact after a relalationship it means they still feel something for that person. Secretly they holding on to them because they hope that they could one day get back together with that person. Holding on in hope that it could be restored.
2007-01-09 00:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kandice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋