My 9 yr old daughter gave the bus driver the middle finger, a friend of mine said I should give her "Time Out". I think she needs a good old fashion butt beating
2007-01-09 00:33:24 · 24 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if you have not punished her already, you should punish her immediately...I think you need to get to the root of the problem...Where did she learn this habit from???
I hope she did not learn it from her parents...
The punishment that I like to use and it seems to work is the old soap in the mouth, a bar of soap in the mouth will keep the ugly words and gestures away!!!
2007-01-09 20:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh comon, im 13 yrs old. I curse at my driver all the time. Theres nothing you can really do about it. People can be extremely rude sometimes, like I can to my driver. But if your that concerned, you better let her appologize because they see the same driver just about 3/4 the year.
2007-01-12 15:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here are some ideas: (The one you mentioned could be harmful)
-Ground her for 1-2 weeks
-Tell her to apoligize to all the people on the bus plus the bus driver
-Tell her to write a two page essay about what she did and how she can change what she did. (Gives you some ideas)
Hope that helps!
Have a great day!
2007-01-09 00:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ground her and make her write an appology to the bus driver. Explain what the middle finger means and why she shouldn't use it.
2007-01-09 00:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No beatings are necessary. If this is the first time scold her and ground her from something she likes for a week. If this has become a habit you could spank her but don't beat her (there is a difference). Any punishment should be done with love not anger. I think spankings are appropriate only as a last resort.
2007-01-09 00:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by firefly 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The first thing that came to my mind was SLAP her, but OF COURSE... DO NOT!
What you need to do to her is the following:
- Figure out why she did it.
- Explain why it is bad to do that (no grown up details).
- Talk to her about the importance of respecting others (reflects one's respect to him/herself).
- Talk to her about the importance of respecting employees (bus driver, maid, BIG or SMALL job... all do something useful).
- Either ground her for 10 minutes and then ask her what she has to say after it, or forbid her from something she really really likes or needs (money, tv, outings, etc) for 5 days.
- Make sure WHATEVER you choose to do and TELL HER, you MUST do it. the worst thing is tell her you'll do something and can't stick to it.
2007-01-09 00:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time out????? Don't listen to your friend, you have the right idea. OMG I have a 10 year old daughter, if she did that she would get the worse spanking of her life. I'd have who ever gives the harder spankings (mom or dad, not step parents) be the one to do it. Some dad's are wimpy, but i know if our daughter pulled that, my husband would demand he do it. For him, bad behaving children reflects on a failure of his fathering abilities. He won't stand for it. Our girls know not to cross him in that way. They know a spanking from me is bad, but one from him is much worse. This definitely calls for a good old fashioned pants down spanking.
Good Luck
2007-01-09 01:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
lol that's funny. i think she needs a major time out and take away TV and video games, the phone, everything she likes for a good week or so. make her write a apology letter to the bus driver and make sure she gives it to him (when shes allowed back on the bus, cuz i would think she got kicked off. tell her that is an inappropriate gesture to anyone to make
2007-01-09 01:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She needs a good old fashioned butt beating. but do it out of love. She needs to know that you love her, but that this is unexceptable behavior. It needs to be a spanking because in Proverbs it says, "The rod and reproof giveth wisdom, but the child left to himself will bring his mother (or in this case her mother.) to shame. The spanking needs to be done in love, not anger, and the pain from it needs to be greater than her desire to do wrong, (sin.) Giving her a "TIME OUT" will only put her in the oportunity to think of a way that she can do it agian, only to where no one sees her and she can get away with it. A time out is supposedly to be used as a time fro the child to think about what they did wrong. Left alone, a child will approach this thought process with about as much maturiy as they approached the wrong doing with. You need to be the one to hold her on your lap, bring yourself down to her understanding level so that she will understand you and explain to her that responding like this in anger (the way she did with the bus driver,) can only bring bad things upon her. She needs to appologise to you for misbehaving, and then she (WITH YOU PRESENT,) needs to go and appologise to the driver. Then guilt will be punished, wrong will be righted, and who knows, this might start a good trend of a relationship between her and the bus driver, who she needs to realize is just as human as she is and is just as capable of having her feeling hurt as your daughter is. Make her do some chores afterwards to earn a reward with a cost for learning a valuable lesson.
2007-01-09 00:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by dougie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A weeks worth of heavy duty restriction works for me. Tell the price goes up from there. What happens next is up to her.
2007-01-09 00:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋