I go into trouble ahwile back and im not aloud to go on the computer except to check my yahoo mail....im not suppost to have a myspace and i do...and that is how i met my boyfriend....we met throguh myspace and we are in love...he is the guy i am going to marry....but i dont know how to tell my parents without getting into trouble....should i lie to them about how we met?
2007-01-09 00:25:18 · 20 answers · asked by Marissa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to assume from the context of your question that you are still in high school...are you unaware of predators on line? How do you know this guy is who and what he says he is? Even if he's posted a picture of himself, how can ou be sure that it's really him, just because he says so? You say "he is the guy I am going to marry...", SLOW DOWN. If you can't even get up the courage to admit to your parents how you met and that you broke some rules doing it, there is no way you are mature enough to be even thinking about marriage. It's a lifetime commitment that requires serious, mature thought and consideration. How about suggesting that he come over to your home sometime and meet your parents? This will tell you, and your parents, hopefully, what you need to know about him.
Whatever you do, don't continue to lie to your parents, your creditability just goes down the tube when you get caught, and sooner or later it will happen. How will they ever trust you when you continue to lie to them?
Take some time to enjoy life and continue to grow up, life is too short to make such big plans so early on.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but as a parent, these are the things that go through our minds.
Nowhere in your question does it say that you actually "met" him face to face, just that you "met" him through myspace. If you don't want things to be assumed as knowledge, be more clear in your statements.
2007-01-09 00:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old you are, but you do sound extremely young. Forgive me if I am wrong. It is dangerous to meet people from the internet unless you have met them safely in real life - accompanied by your parents or another adult if you are very young, or friends if you are closer to my age! This is likely why your parents don't want you to surf the net on the computer at home - there are a lot of weird people out there. Trust me. If you do meet in real life and your parents are ok about it, you don't have to tell them you met him on myspace, although it would be better if you did. You can't expect them to like you going on that website though!
I met my hubby online, and we have been together 6 years and have two children. But I was already a young adult living independently when I met him.
2007-01-09 00:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deceiving your parents is nothing but going down the wrong path. Simply put tell them the truth. This way you will never have to be looking over your shoulder the rest of your life wondering why in the world you misled your parents. Once you start deceiving people all this does is take you down a long road of hurt and having second thoughts. Always be honest with people and you will be respected no matter what. Do not get in the practice of lieing. That is the worst thing anyone can do along with stealing. Just be honest.
2007-01-09 00:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw babes, I have the same problem at the moment :( I'm 16 and been with him for 1 year and 2 months, but my dad sussed out and won't really talk about it. Tell them that your boyfriend will not interupt your school work. Your mum is likely to be happy - It's dads that are the problem. They still think of you as their little princesses, and it won't stop at that level. Give it time. How long have you been with him? Wait for about 3 months before telling your parents. Don't worry babes :) Take care x
2016-05-22 22:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie - if you're parents are banning you from checking out certain sites I'm guessing you have shown less than amazingly good discernment with respect to what you do online. meeting somone online and falling in love is stupid, stupid, stupid. He can be pretending to be all kinds of things that he is not. i know of someone that ALMOST got abducted by a wierdo pervert because she gave this "sweet boy" on the 'net her address. turns out her sweet 15 Y/O friend was actually a huge, smelly 45 Y/O wierdo. So what do you REALLY know about the ppl you meet online? NOTHING! Remember that. Show yourself the respect of meeting ppl in real life and protecting your online identity... at least untill you are old enough top make better decisions and handle the situations that might crop up. So, what to tell your parents? Everything. yes they'll probably be mad at you but that just proves they love you and are looking after your best interests. tell them now.
2007-01-09 00:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its dangerous to meet people on the internet for the most part but if you have already met him in person than the damage has been done. Don't bother telling them they really don't need to know it is only going to cause problems but as for you marrying him and being in love, if your parents are still able to keep you off the computer you're too young to be thinking about marriage. Just date and see what happens
2007-01-09 00:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kat A 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure both you are loving each other real love and both of you ready to get married , so where is the problem my dear ..
i know that is little difficult to tell but you have to ... just you have to Jose a good timing i mean when there mood is good \ ...
i don't want to do any think behind of both of you because i love you and i hope you can understand my situation and you have to promise to not be agree.. and don't forget to say the Cod point a bout your boyfriend like / where is he working,how much happy he can makes you,and how much of respect he can give you and your family , tell them his thinking is like your family he loves the way which you re leaving , he doesn't do this and that [ you know your parents like and dislike] so that is what you have to say and if they tried to shout at you so tell them you have promised me not to be agree ... All the best
2007-01-09 00:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To lie will only get you into deeper trouble. plus a lot of guys on here are NOT what they seem. I learned this 1st hand. Have you met him in person? Naturally they will be concerned and i wouldn't mention love & marriage just yet. Let them meet & get to know & accept him. Dont throw the whole enchalada at them at once.
2007-01-09 00:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very young lady and you are makig some very big mistakes. You are very likely not in love nor going to marry Mr MySpace. What you are doing is disrespecting and disobeying your parents whom have your best interests at heart. Stop this correspondence immediately and stop lying to your parents. It will only get you into bigger trouble later.
2007-01-09 00:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How on earth can you want to marry a guy you have never seen in the flesh? Your parents are right. You need to get some perspective and some maturity. They obviously banned you from excessive pc use for a reason.
2007-01-09 00:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋