I told my b/friend last nite that i have found the mails he has been sendin his ex, he apologised for it and said that he loves me and wants to be with me.God knows I want to move on as this is not the first time, He is my first ever b/friend and we have been togetha for a year and a month so is hard to let go, how can I make him suffer to see that what he is doing is wrong, he said he is ONLy flirtin with his ex...which is also wrong cause he shouldnt be stringing her along if he doesnt like her..WHAT SHOUL I DO guys I need him to learn his lesson without hurting myself.
2007-01-09 00:23:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GIRL NOT THE FIRST TIME? GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN. I KNOW THAT IT IS HARD BECAUSE HE IS YOUR FIRST BUT MOVE ON. WHY DO WE TEND TO FEEL LIKE WE CAN'T LEAVE OUR FIRST. GIRL PLS. LEAVE THAT ZERO AND GET URSELF A HERO. LEAVE.......HE WANT HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. NOPE..DON'T LET HIM DO THAT TO YOU. REMEMBER WHAT YOU SAID "GOD KNOWS I WANT TO MOVE ON AS THIS NOT EHT FIRST TIME" THAT IS UR ANSWER.DON'T LET HIM PLAY WITH UR FEELINGS.
2007-01-09 02:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay, he will just string you along. For your own sake, you must move on. It's difficult but if you don't, things will only get worse. This I can assure you. I have never ever seen a woman who keeps acting in the same kind of "understanding" martyr role wins true love from such situation.
Forget about revenge and jealousy. Don't confuse love with obsession. It only makes you look less attractive to him or anyone else. It's best to get away from him and widen your circle of male friends. Someday you look back, you'll be wondering what you saw in him. This I am sure.
Be an elegant spirit. True freedom is learning to let go of things that you thought you couldn't live without. There are more interesting things to pursue in life than a man who tries to mess with your mind.
You are welcome to write to me if you need more advice or support.
2007-01-09 08:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Zenithia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, GIRL GO! This man has done it before you say, don't let him make you second guess as to whether he will do it again. Maintain some dignity, you need to be with someone you can trust, stop snooping through his emails and let him go. Theres someone out there for you who'll love you for you and not string you along and make you wonder if he's thinking of his ex.
The first time you finish with someone is hard but sometimes you need to kiss a few frogs before you find the prince right?
2007-01-09 09:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by The Sooz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him go. It's always hard to dump someone for the first time, but it's something you need to do. If you are not happy, then you need to let go of him. I agree with you that is wrong that he is still flirting with his ex. I find that disrespectful to you since he shouldn't be doing that with other women. You should let him go or at least take a break from this situation.
2007-01-09 08:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will hurt u whether u stay with him or not!
what on earth would have happened if u hadnt of found them emails? how come you were looking thru his stuff in the first place? u obv dont trust him as u say this isnt the 1st time and he IS wrong!
you really need to let him go, yes it will hurt but u will find someone better!
2007-01-09 08:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"God knows I want to move on as this is not the first time" What makes you think this will be the last time. The only thing you can change about a man is their outside appearance because they dont really care about what they look like too much.
2007-01-09 08:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but if he cant leave his ex in the past then id call it a day i had a boyfriend like that in the past and can only say your hurting yourself more staying sure enough you think the world will end if you split but there are better people out there but its hard to find them,i know its hard to split after a long relationship but please do trust me your hurting yourself more the longer you stay and put up with this behaviour .
the past is the past you got a hole future in front of you please dont let your boyfriend get away this put your foot down.
2007-01-09 08:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by gunnermarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave his sorry ***. At the end of the day if he doin this what else has he done that you dont know about? If he loved you he wouldn't have been doin that would he? My boyfriend neva do that i would kick his *** lol! You have to be strong and leave him gurl he probaly knows your weak n thinks he will get away with it but trust me he will do it again. Leave him m show him you dont need hiss tired ***
2007-01-09 09:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not the first time?? Well I guess the magic number is up to you.What does he want to be? A player or your boyfriend? It's up to you as to how long you want to be a doormat for this guy.
2007-01-09 08:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for the game, get out while you are still thinking straight, he is back with his ex, but he wants to keep you for the side peice.
2007-01-09 08:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋