my bf says he loves me when i say or when i am upset but does not want to be overwhelmed with love for me , as he does not want his studies to be affected,which creates loy of tention for me as i see other girls bf come behind them.please suggest some tricks so that like others bf my bf also comes after me and i need not go after him &most importantly make my love relationship a very very strong one.please tell me how i will make my bf mad after me.
2007-01-09 00:14:51 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My husband used to be like this too, although I was not a big fan of the public displays of affection so I wasnt bother by it. He did change though, it took a couple of years but now I find that he will kiss me out of no where in front of other people or put his arm around me when we are walking.
I think my husband was a little afraid to show that he actually liked me in front of other people and embarrassed by PDA, but once we were married for a little while I think he just realized that people expected us to kiss and hug and act like we liked each other.
He'll change, dont make it a bigger deal than it is. You know he loves you without all the PDA, you dont need him to prove it to your friends.
2007-01-09 03:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh Honey! You are such an innocent little baby. I have sent a copy of your question to GOD (trust me and don’t ask me how) your boy friend might get a message from above. From my side I can only tell you that you are very lucky to have such a lovely boy friend. Most boys put on a public display of love for the benefit of girls like you; however, their intentions are not always as good. They use the girls and move on to other prey. Your boy friend’s love is solid. His head is on his shoulders …hold on to him with both hands…a couple of years down the line you can say Thank you, while the show case lovers will have their hearts torn to tatters.
2007-01-10 21:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look dear, what I understand from your words is that you love him no doubt, but you are more into showing off. I really appritiate your boyfriend for his wonderful decision. A building is built upon a foundation which your boyfriend is trying to build. You should help him by being with him & not going after him. My suggestion is BE WITH HIM. Just make him understand that you are with him and not after him. This will definitely remove many of your complains. Check it out for a month and let me know the result.
He is neglecting you just bcoz he understood that you are ater him. Any guy with ordinary prudence would do the same even me too.
2007-01-09 03:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Upal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I once heard an old saying "when a man does not love you, then he does not love you. But when a man loves you, he loves you! No tricks in the world will make it any different. Seems as if he has put other priorities that are important to him ahead of you. You should too, you should be thinking of your future and also go to school to better yourself. Love should not be something you have to trick out of someone, it should come naturally.
2007-01-10 08:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just act like a *****. You don't have to be a *****, just act like one. It's very easy to do. You love yourself (more than you love him) and enjoy what you do (study, job, hobby etc), and more importantly, don't think he is the most important thing for you in the world. Act like you are an independent person emotionally. Don't cling to him. Be sweet when you are with him, but don't call or write an e-mail to him. Let him do all these stuffs for you. If you can be confident about yourself, he is always after you. Trust me and try this!
2007-01-09 03:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the guy is really serious about your future that's Y he is concentrating on his studies.
The better thing would be to understand the person from heart rather than following the other person path.
Those who show more, normally have little in their heart, may be he has a lot for u..
Try and understand his feeling and priorities at this moment.. Definitely u will win his attention.
2007-01-09 03:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sandeep G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have answered some of it, he does not want his studies to be affected. It would be unfair of you to disturb them, after all, this is his future. Why not do some study of your own. If you are going to make a future together, you have to respect each others needs. Also, if you do intend to marry one day, he will need a good job to support you and maybe you could work too, so study is important to get a good job and get on in life. Give him space, respect and love.
2007-01-10 06:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is possible that your bf simply isn't the type to express himself, whether he's actually focusing on his studies or just using them to avoid a closer relationship than he is comfortable with.
One of my guy friends has had several girlfriends who eventually had to go their own way (however painful) because he simply doesn't engage in that type of effusive, overtly loving relationship. There are guys who will, of their own accord, come after YOU.
You should distance yourself from your bf right now. It will make him more comfortable and enable you to pursue some of your own interests apart from your relationship, whether it's your own schoolwork, or a job, or volunteering or your family or a craft.
You'll then be in a much better position (practically and emotionally) to evaluate your relationship and it might make your relationship stronger since it will demonstrate that you respect your bf's wishes and perspective on relationships. Good luck!
2007-01-09 06:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 12:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-09 00:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by akshay s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋