why do guys stay friends with their ex
I really dont get it
Im 20 and I never ever stay mates with them (I will be civil if I see them in the street but I wont be thier mate) at the end of the day she hurt me or I hurt her after she hurt me what ever happend between us we both got hurt so why be friends if you hurt each other after sharing something special
how can you go back to mates after having something that was once so good?
doesnt make sense to me
2007-01-09 00:10:00 · 21 answers · asked by Music fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I suppose it depends on the nature of the break up. If there was just a realization that dating her wasn't working because it felt awkward, then maybe you could still be friends and enjoy that friendship. However, if there was cheating, or a mutual distrust, then I can't imagine how someone would be able to remain friends.
2007-01-09 00:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men who remain friends with their ex-girlfriends are just being nice. It is just a sign that shows that they don't bear grudges and that they only want to cherish the special memories they have had with their ex-girlfriends. If you have ill-feelings toward your ex then that only shows you are not completely healed from the break up. If you really have loved the person, then I don't see any reason why you can't forgive her ( if she was at fault and had caused the break up) and accept the fact that what you once had was just a part of your life and an instrument that will enable you to be more careful in choosing a better partner in your next relationship. Think of the good things that you both once had and bury the ugly memories. Life is too short to be filled with anger and hatred.
2007-01-09 08:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by brainyluscious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether you separate because you were hurt or you caused hurt to your partner will eventually waver. These hurt mends over time and this is the reason why some people become friends with their exes. You should try being friends with your ex. It would release a big burden on your part.
2007-01-09 08:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't make sense. But why not be friends? Sometimes it's a mutual thing? Maybe Love goes beyond just lust and love with the addition of friendship.
Depends on the person, I am friends with a few of my ex's and hate others. DEpends on the ex.
2007-01-09 08:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 1st wife and I got divorced after 23yrs of marriage and we're still mates.We don't love each other but we don't hate each other either. The main reason for staying friends is because she is still the mother of my three daughters. And she is a good mother. I have to respect that. Don't you think it's far better that when/if my daughters get married they can invite both of us instead of having to choose?
2007-01-09 08:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a guy thats why. The girl needs and is expected to be civil with their ex and sometimes they end up as good friends or best mates. Thats how it is sometimes. Girls would rathere settle with their ex's as good friends than nothing at all.
2007-01-09 08:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by shanekeavy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe anyone who says they stay mates after they break up because one person has to initiate the break up, and if they manage to stay friends then i don't think there could of been much passion and feeling in the first place.
2007-01-09 08:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Loo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With very few of them u will actually stay mates .. donut try to understand this thing too much , will only give u headake. U will understand more in about 10 years :)
2007-01-09 08:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by AlinaU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been dumped in some of the nastiest ways possible and its always the same "but i still want you as a friend". i will never have a female as a friend. and if that hurts them then i dont care anyway. i'm always having to change my mobile number so they cant get in contact again after weve finished. its weird to me why girls want to stay friends. i prefer to break all contact and go our seperate ways.
2007-01-09 08:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...i am friends with all of my ex partners...life is too short to live in the past and hold a grudge...some of the break ups have been horrible, some not so bad...but from the start i always say no head games and no grudges...no cheating goes without saying in my book...as a result i have some very good friends who know me well enough to always be honest with me....each to their own tho.....have fun...xxx
2007-01-09 08:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋