stress and its effects on the body?

Question

My husband informed me lastnight that he hates his life, our house, his job, everything about life in general. He feels that he's unappreciated at home and at work. He drinks everynight. Not to the point of being totally drunk, but he's feeling it. Could alcohol have something to do with the way he's feeling?? This has me about sick!! My stomach is churning, i feel shaky, i have a headache. Is there anything I can do, that doesnt involve drugs, to calm myself down??? We try to make him happy, but evidently, its not working. What should I do??

Answer 1

It sounds like the problem isn't yours, but his. However, there are several good relaxation techniques that you can try. Try going for a walk and leave your problems at the door on your way out. Anytime they try to creep in, push them back and think about something pleasant. This is just to give your mind a little break. I don't mean to forget about what is happening all together, just for a little while. You can take a bubble bath with some soft music on the radio. You can talk to a close friend that you trust.
I think the main problem is not yours, it is his. It sounds as if he is feeling overwhelmed. He may even be suffering from depression. Many people use alcohol to self-medicate for depression. This doesn't work however because alcohol is a depressant.
The alcohol probably isn't helping but I'm afraid that your husband's main problem is more serious than that. He should discuss his feelings with his familiy doctor or a counselor or psychiatrist.
I went through a similar situation with my husband several years ago. He actually quit his job when I found him one night ready to put his arm through a door just so that he wouldn't have to go to work. He was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. With medication and counseling, he is happier, we are happier and our life together is much better than it has ever been.
There is something going on with your husband that you nor he understand. Get help soon before it is too late.
Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 2

Stress can literally kill you so if I were you I would have a talk with a doctor and he needs to see one as well. He is showing definite signs of depression. I know this is hard on you and I wish there was something I could say that would snap and make your life better. But I have seen this many times before in a few friends. I know the symptoms very well. Alcohol is defiantly contributing to his emotional upset. And his emotional state is causing you to become ill. Take from this what you wish. I will say a prayer for you for your comfort.

Answer 3

Well like those persons have instructed you, pressure could have many results on our our bodies. One I have is psoriasis. It's now not as dangerous as a few persons can get it. I customarily get it on my elbows and despite the fact that someday I don't understand I am confused out I can often inform I am or were while this flares up. Try to not get too confused on the grounds that there are such a lot of frightening matters that may occur to the frame. Take care of your self! ;zero)

Answer 4

sounds like your husband has unresolved issues. drinking is a depressant, and your husbands drinking is making matters worse for you and him. he may be depressed, and using booze to make himself feel better, but it sounds like it is not working. you may want to discuss your husbands problems with your family doctor, who can maybe point u in the right direction to get your husband some help. if your husband does not want help, then get some for yourself. sounds like this is giving you anxiety, and being sick to your stomach, headaches , feeling shaky , are symptoms of stress and anxiety caused by your husband. sleeping properly, exercise, and perhaps some counseling for you would help u feel better. if that does not work, you could try some medication, that can be taken as necessary, in small amounts. however medication for you should be the last resort to help you get over this rough time. dont be afraid of medication, after all thats what your husband is doing, drowning out his sorrows. i feel for you, hope things work out for you. good luck

Answer 5

You are definitely feeling the effects of stress. Don't take anything yourself but fix the problem instead. Maybe your husband is just depressed or needs a evening out to himself with friends. If it continues for your sake and if you have kids theirs, suggest a trial seperation.

Answer 6

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.