my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over a year now.were soo close,hes my bestfriend,were basically married.But weve come to lose like the spark in our relationship.We have always had tiny little arguments about nothing and we get over them 2 min later. but it feels like latley everything is worse. we may get over our arguments sooner then later but they occur alot more often.we say really hurtfull things to eachother but when the argument is over we never say sorry or talk about what we said and how we didnt mean it. we just kind of move on. and every time i talk to him about how we need to stop he agrees and we talk about it but like an hour later its the same story and we go through the same cycle.we do this all time.and when ever hes with one his good friends he becomes an a*ss.
i dont know how this will sound to some people.like thats just one side of him.other then that hes the best. i just wish the side of him that i fell inlove with was there all the time..
2007-01-09 00:00:35 · 4 answers · asked by ... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the answer to your problem is in your question itself...and the answer may sound simple but its actually quite tough. You two have communication issues, meaning you two arent talking things over as much as you need to. You need to apologise for an argument and think things over from the other person's perspective without any grduge or anger in your own mind. I think that should help in solvng your problem. Similarly, you should tell him about his behaviour when he is with his friends and you should talk to him about how it hurts you. If the two of you really love each other, then that should pretty much solve the problem. If there is a sexual spark missing , then sexy lingerie, soft music and a lap dance now and then should do the trick. ...
Hope that helped...
2007-01-09 00:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by sudheesh s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was in a similar situation, See i was with my now ex boyfriend for 2yrs but hes been my friend since 8th grade. I am 23yrs old but everything was fine and then the arguing kept getting worse and we talked about how things need to change and after a while i said this man has been my best friend since 8th grade and I looked back and saw how we were better friends than lovers. All I am saying is there is hope things can work out if you try but sometimes too just because you love someone doesn't,t mean they are right for you. Good luck
2007-01-09 00:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Roses also have thorns.. always remember with time ones true xter comes up while when u r just fallin in love, everyone is at there best. One once said to me... that in order to be married with some one.. u must not fall in love wth them becouse u will soon fall out of love. Most importartant is to love each other..ie respect, care, trust, etc. To enhance all these qualities, communicatipn is the most importat.. Tell him how wats goin on is makn u feel. If he loves u, together u will find ways of solving it. All the best...
2007-01-09 00:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by aasweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the relationships goes through this dont worry it will get better maybe you just need some time apart from each other i dont mean break just go away for a weekend with the girls. He will start to miss you and realise what could lose.
2007-01-09 00:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋