My son's father & I split up 2 years ago. He is now 4. He saw him once immediately after we split up & disappeared. I have not received one dollar for child support in the 2 years since we split. He has not called on birthdays or Christmas or anything or sent any gifts or cards. He has a drug problem now, is in and out of jail and arrested ALL the time since we split 2 years ago. He does not live in the same state as we do. I just found out that he is now a fugitive with 3 felony warrants issued in the state he is currently in. I do not yet know what they are for. Last night, he called me (had not heard from him for at least a year by phone) he demanded that I let him come down & see his son next month. Can he legally do this? Can I go try to get legal custody of him now? I never felt I needed to before since he just disappeared. I do feel it is NOT in my son's best interest to be around him at this point in his life. It is not my personal dislike for his father.
2007-01-08 23:54:24 · 25 answers · asked by shopper_143 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First thing first, did he walk out or did you kick him out. I am asking this because of the Spears/Federline fiasco . . . Brittney kicked Keven out, he didn't abandon them.
If you kicked him out, you may destroyed him, started using and now he is in trouble with the law, because you destroyed his spirit. Odds are, you are going say he walked out . . . which is possible, but rare . . . but that is beside the point.
As for Child Custody, since the child has been living with you and you have been caring for him for 2 years, odds are when you go to court you will gain full custody, as for visitation right . . . with a criminal warrents out of his arrest, I highly doubt he will show his face in court.
If there are actually warrants out for his arrest . . . call the police, tell them that you were contacted by him and that you feel that your safety and that of your son is endangered. Then arrange a time for him to come by . . . have a plain clothes cop in the kitchen and your son at the neighbor. When he comes in . . . the cop walks in and arrest his *** on the warrants. And while he is in custody, finalize child custody with the courts. Remember this will work, if there are warrants out for his arrest. If you are making this up . . . then this will build up his case for parental alienation.
2007-01-16 09:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, me and you are the same person!GO AND FILE FOR FULL CUSTODY RIGHT NOW! AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. YES HE DOES HAVE THE RIGHT TO SEE HIS SON. NO MATTER WHAT HE HAS DONE.That 's why you need custody. Most likely the judge will give you full custody. All you have to do is prove he is a danger to your son. It cost me 25.00 to file papers. You will need an address to serve papers to him. I'm telling you go to the court house and find out what you can do. Just because he isn't paying child support doesn't mean that he can't see his kid. Wether you like it or not he has the right to see him unless the courts say other wise. Because you and him do not have custody he can come and take him if he wants. I'm sure you don't want to hear this but it's true. I was so upset when I found out that my ex could take our kids. He hasn't seen them in two years! But he has rights. I don't think so. He's never even called to check on them for anything. When his own family ask him how come he doesn't see his kids, he answered by saying I never wanted them to begin with. He didn't mind poking holes in the condoms. Find out what you can. Get proof about his drug use are just him being a fugitive should be enough. I live in Virginia. The laws maybe different where you live. I hope and pray everything goes alright with you.
2007-01-13 16:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by pussypoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same exact situation. I called my local police station asking what would happen if my daughters father made a visit and took my girl what would happen. If you can prove that the child resides with you and that you are the primary caregiver, they will get the child back. Get custody. The great thing you have going for you is that he has warrants. All you have to do is call the cops and he'll be in jail for a long time. While there, get custody, and file all child support paperwork. Even if he is in jail, any money put on his books, or earned in jail will go to you for support. Not much, but better than nothing. Good luck. Being a single parent is the hardest job there is, but the most rewarding.
2007-01-09 14:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Susan C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to let him see him. The idiot should know this and if he does try to come around then call the police. If he has not payed anything towards the support of the child and has not gone through the legal process of obtaining rights (which since he's on the run would not be a smart thing for him to do) then he has no rights at all.
I am a single mother. My son's father hasn't seen him since he as 5mo. he is now 7 yo. I just recently went to court to get him to pay child support for my son. It was then that he showed interest in seeing my son after all these years. He was denied because my son needs stability and he is not one to do anything on a regular basis. Also I was afraid that my son would end up abused again (he was neglected by his father while I was working). You as the sole parent who's been there have all the rights
2007-01-09 00:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First I would suggest that you get a restraining order against him to protect your child while at the same time you file for sole custody. I say this because custody issues sometimes take a while, and if he takes your child for visitation and never brings him back he is not breaking the law. Until there is a court order of custody, there is nothing that requires the other parent to adhere to any visitation standards. It sounds like this man is completely irrational and is already on the run from the law so what's stopping him from snatching his kid while he's at it. The restraining order will keep you and your child protected until custody is determined. It is unfortunate that your child's father has slipped into a world of drugs and crime. At this point he is not a good role model for your child, but don't right him off forever. People do change. One day he may realize his mistakes and change his life. Until then, protect your child. When he asks questions try to give honest, non judgmental answers. Good Luck.
2007-01-16 08:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by adondeesta1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, GO FILE FOR CHILD SUPPORT. The visitation does not subject. He is obligated to furnish for this little one. Second, you'll be able to get a court docket order to set up visitation regulations, however until you'll be able to end up that he's significantly abusing her or is inebriated or doing medications even as she is in his custody, supervised visits are out. Supervised visitation is an luxurious propositions for the courts and is applied in best essentially the most severe occasions. Given his loss of visitation, you traditionally might make a case for sole custody, however that does not imply he would possibly not get visitation rights. Even when you have sole custody, he nonetheless could be granted entry. But I'd move after the little one help, get the visitation order, after which permit the chips fall wherein they're going to.
2016-09-03 18:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try and get full custoday of him now, although he is his father he can still see him. But if you do feel that he is a treat to you and your child you can have the court do something about it. You sound like your in the same situation as me. My daughter is 15 months old her father has NEVER seen except once when I ran into him @ wal-mart with his other child's mother which was 10 months at the time when my daughter was 8 months. He didnt even talk to her or acknowledge her, now all of a sudden im getting calls from him saying he is taking her away and going to put her up for adoption because she is a girl. Never paid anything on her, never seen her for more than 2 seconds. He is just mad because i filed child support. Its your job to protect your son from this. I suggest go to court a.s.a.p.
2007-01-09 02:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same boat as u and i didn't think it was in my son's best interest either and i was right i found out that he raped an 8 yr old boy when he was 14 and then raped a 12 yr old girl when he was 19 thank god i knew this before my son got too attached to him, to think i was living with this man for 5 years and not know any of this, and the only reason i found out was he tried to report me to children's aid and then after the interview the worker turned around and investigated him and reopened all his criminal back ground. i was rewarded full custody and he has no legal rights and still has to pay child support lmao so yeah i wouldn't wait any longer file for legal aid and they will assign u a lawyer that specialized in custody battles, trust me with his background he will be lucky if he gets supervised visits, and he right now has no legal rights since your son is in your custody at the present time and he will have to wait till the court decides when and if he is entitled to see your son at all, and in my case that took over 2 years.
good luck and if u need any further info let me know k
2007-01-09 00:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has 3 warrants, if he shows up at your house, call the police and state that you have a felon there trying to get into your house and that you know he has 3 felony warrants.
The police will be there real quick. You won't be seeing him for a while. While he is in jail file for child support and custody. This will be free if you don't have the means to pay for it.
Problem solved.
2007-01-09 00:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you are for real, then you should of gone to court and got custody years ago, and yes being that there is no legal papers saying you have sole custody he legally can just pick up the child and leave and where in the world with him,, go to a lawyer and get the paper work in the courts immediately,, after you read this message quickly start getting ready,, tell them you want sole custody,, otherwise he can do as he wants
2007-01-09 00:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by quitelovableman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋