Some women tell me that looks is not as important as personality and temperment. I've heard gorgeous women tell me that they would date a guy that is not 'hot' if he treated her right and all that good stuff. I'm convinced that is an 'ok' looking guy approached one of these gorgeous women she would not give him the chance to prove how great a guy he is. What do you think?
2007-01-08 23:53:57 · 24 answers · asked by Cyber Stalker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, let's use numbers. The guy is 5'10" (average height) and 200lbs (a bit overweight), but is a decent looking guy (talking facial features), but no stunner. I really think at best he could be considered a 'friend'.
The women that tell me how much personality means will tell me in the next sentence about the 'HOT' guy they met the other night....really give the answer some thought.
2007-01-09 00:03:11 · update #1
zoey z, I think your answer is the honest one and I wonder how many of those guys would even get to the 'second chance' with you?
2007-01-09 00:05:11 · update #2
girlcop1, you hit the nail on the head and have brought in my dilema! If you get to know her first then you could get stuck being the 'guy friend' and in the relationship you really wanted. Do you know how hard it is to be friends with a girl that you have a total crush on?
2007-01-09 00:06:51 · update #3
OK, so maybe you are right. But why do you have to approach someone right away. Why can't you let a woman get to know you and then approach her. I mean I know this doesn't work in a situation where you don't know this gorgeous woman. But in that case, how do you know you want her either. So ind a great looking woman whom you are already an acquaintance with and impress her with your personality.
2007-01-09 00:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's usually like this. A beautiful woman might take longer to get interested in an "ok" looking guy, where a hot guy may attract her instantly. However, if the average looking guy is persisent (but not in an annoying or stalkerish manner), and he has the CONFIDENCE, personality or charm, and a decent job, and is clean and dresses well (meaning clothes that match and no stains or holes in them), he can win her over- it might just take a little more time. (Just dont act too much like her "friend" because then that's all you'll be.) I did read, however, that couples have a much better chance of staying together if they are "equally goodlooking." But I have seen many very pretty girls with ok guys. But if the guy is more than slightly overweight, that could be a problem. I am a slim and good looking girl, and I might date an "ok" looking guy, but definately not overweight. Why? First, weight is one thing a person can mostly control. If you want to be with a gorgeous girl, you should put the same effort into looking your best, as she does into looking gorgeous!! Think about it. Also, I would want someone who shows he cares about his body and health, just as I do. Hope you see what I'm saying.
2007-01-09 00:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by darkrose_09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely yes! Looks don't last forever and a characteristics of their personality do. I think that everyone should take a person for who they are and not what they look like personally. As far as a beautiful woman it would depend on the person. There are different values that women look for in a man. Some women would give him a chance and the stuck up selfish and uncaring ones would not give him the time of day!
2007-01-09 00:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the older the woman gets the less important looks really are to them. When you are young and just starting out, you want to have the HOT boyfriend and such, but as you get older and you mature, you then realize that looks are really not that important anymore. Just that the guy treats you the way a woman should be treated.
2007-01-08 23:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Renee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where you are when doing the approaching. Certainly a bar scene or a club would not be in your favor but a coffee shop or a grocery store, bookstore, park, would give you a proper chance I think. Goodluck!
2007-01-09 00:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how "ok" this person is... i personally don't find good looking people attractive.. i find them arrogant.. i'm more likely to go for an okay looking guy... but only if i'm attracted to them - personality AND looks..
If by ok looking - you mean ugly then no.. personality only works then if you have known them for a while...
i have had much better relationships with okay looking guys than hot guys
2007-01-09 00:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately. Personality is very important. That is what attracts me to a guy; someone who is fun, loves life, can make others laugh, is generous, accepts others as they are... it wouldn't matter that he is just ok.
Besides, "One man's meat is another man's poison". What one lady may perceive as ok looks, another lady may consider gorgeous.
2007-01-09 00:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on the woman, and her personal values. Many women do look beyond the outside, and value what's on the inside.
2007-01-08 23:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would and I have. Some of the best looking men are the biggest *******. I have had a lot of fun with 'ok' looking guys. Just be yourself!
2007-01-09 00:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by nosycap9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First impressions are very important. If he was a stunner then he better beable to make me laugh right away before I would pass him by.
2007-01-09 00:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by jdnsmama1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋