I was using my bf's laptop and saved a photo and it automatically saved it in his 'My Pictures' I went in there to retrieve it and saw lots of photos of him and his ex, from 3 1/2 years ago - plus the laptop is not that old. I'm not naive, I know everyone has ex's, and most people probably have photos and other things as it's part of their past but I don't understand why he has kept them? I know they broke up on bad terms, and when I have been in that situation myself I have wanted to get rid of every reminder... I know we are all different, and all react differently but it just doesn't seem like something I thought he would keep.
Am I being too sensitive?
2007-01-08 23:47:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was part of his life, the real question is if they are nudes
2007-01-08 23:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sensitive, a bit! OK, say you spend 20 years with 1 person, being with that person and doing all the things you did have made you what you are today. You may have gone to Disneyland, toured the world, met famous people, you can't pretend the last 20 years of your life didn't exist. So naturally, you keep photos and such as memories. I have been with my partner more than 19 years and I still have photos of my two ex's and some of old girlfriends. And I've scanned a lot of those old photos and have them on my PC. My partner has a lot of photos from her past. Maturity is not being threatened by that!
2007-01-08 23:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are too sensitive. Maybe the photos remind him of other things besides the ex. Maybe places he has been or other friends or happy times he doesn't want to forget. You can't be the only female in someone's universe. Maybe he is just too busy or lazy to delete the photos.... men are different animals. I mean, I'm sure he isn't sitting around looking at the photos all the time. He probably doesn't even think about it! You are being insecure.
2007-01-08 23:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are being to sensitive. you hit the nail on the head when you admitted that most people have photos of their exs, and its a part of their past. so why are you questioning why he has kept his? it doesn't matter if it ended on bad terms or not, they are still his memories and his past to do with what he pleases. how did these pictures get on his laptop, though? were they on a disc? were they in photo form and he scanned them onto his PC? this is where the issue is. maybe he wanted to look at old photos and reminisce, its his right to do so . there may be more to than that since they are still on his PC, so i would traed carefully and keep your eyes and ears open for infidelity. good luck.
2007-01-09 00:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by beechjb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may just be that he feels there are still unresolved issues in the relationship. If they parted on bad terms he may not have entirely let go of those feelings. It doesn't mean he is not completely commited to you. Try and put it out of your mind but if you can't then when you are feeling calm explain what happened and ask him about his motivation for keeping them. Try not to be judgemental or jump to conclusions. His reasons are probably perfectly innocent.
2007-01-08 23:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was jealous to find pictures of my husbands ex gf. Now, this is my husband we're talking about. It was in the beginning. He may not be over her 100% but don't pry into it. You may go too deep. I wouldn't bring it up unless he brought the subject up. It could be a touchy situation
2007-01-08 23:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way girl you are not being sensitive. You are just concern about whether are not he is still in love with her. Maybe he wants to be reminded of the good times they use to have together maybe you should ask him and find out whether are not he is still in love with this girl.
2007-01-08 23:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were snooping were'nt you? Shame on you. Ask him & you'll probably know by his response if you have anything to worry about. I don't think you are being to sensitive as I'd be feeling a bit put off by that as well. Go girl!
2007-01-08 23:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, what you feel is pretty normal. all of us would get upset over the sight of seeing that. talk to him especially since you weren't snooping and found the pics. it's really not good that he still has pics of her imo. good luck
most definetly talk to him about this, because if he came across your ex i'm sure he wouldn't b happy. despite what the rest of the women here are saying, guys are not as sentimental as women. i have heard of too many guys not getting over certain women when they have moved onto the next relationship. you are not overly sensitive and you are not overthinking this. talk with him about this.
this is what's wrong with relationships today that ppl can't talk about things. if you can't talk to him about this what else won't you be able to talk about. don't b nasty with him or make it dramatic just b calm and ask.
if he is truely crazy about you he will get rid of them. if he insists keeps them...well you know.
2007-01-08 23:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by lookingforanswersandquestions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i can see your feelings.. my bf still has photos of his exs in photo albums we have at home.. and it does bug me a bit.. but i try not to let it. i mean what is he suppose to do throw everything a way.. maybe there is someone else in the photo that he wants to keep.. maybe he hasn't gotten around to it yet.. (you know how guys are at proscratinging)
i imagine thats what it is.. he'll get around to getting rid of them eventually.. just try not to let it bug you in the mean time.. he's with you.. and thats what matters :)
2007-01-08 23:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he look at them alot?
Maybe they are just reminders of how a relationship can be good and then turn sour. Or he could just keep them just because they are pics. Don't read to much into it, he is with you not her, so keep on keepn' on
2007-01-08 23:57:00 · answer #11 · answered by trcyrb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋