He is not shy but does not want to get frank with other people even kids of his age. He holds me tightly when I'm in any social gathering. He cries when I sit in any other one's car. He is very careful rather frightened that I think any kid of his age shouldn't be while even jumping and running. It looks he is comfortable only with family members and none else!!
Why he feels insecure I cant understand. Any suggestions??
2007-01-08 23:44:45 · 4 answers · asked by zed 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This sounds like separation anxiety. My oldest child went through this and I found that the only thing that worked with him was to keep putting him in social situations. He of course hated this but after a while of realizing that he was still safe he slowly started to become more comfortable. I would try putting him into an in home daycare for 1 or 2 days a week. Or maybe if another family member could take him for a day. Just so that he realizes that even though you're not there you are still going to come back. Or if you check out at your local Family Resource Center they might have a drop in center where you could go with him and there would be other children there with their parents. I wouldn't worry too much about just as long as you keep introducing him into social situations, he will eventually grow out of it. Hope this helps a bit :)
2007-01-08 23:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by hasgr8boyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem with my children especially when starting school. Leaving mommy, daddy, and close family members seemed very scary to them and they cried a lot. I would suggest a play group or day care where there are other children to get him used to not being "stuck on you" and seeing how much fun playing with other kids can be. The first few visits stay there so your child will feel safe and know that you are there. You will soon see him getting curious and wanting to see what's going on. After that you will need to tell him after you get there that you are leaving and will be back soon, give him a hug and kiss and leave whether he's crying or not. Come back after a while and he will be very excited to see you and see that you do come back and it will be ok. After a few times of doing this you should be able to leave without much problem and he will learn to be more independent and want to play with other children.
2007-01-09 07:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Becki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now it could just be that toddlers of that age like to be with their mothers. They're old enough to know they aren't part of their mother (the way they once thought they were), and the world can be scary (especially when it comes to people and situations that aren't familiar).
Also, there is the possibility he is a very bright child. It is said that children of high intellgience take a "look before you leap" approach to new things and new people.
If he's bright another factor could be that he lives in a world that may talk to him as if he's a month old when he knows he can understand more and feels people are talking to him as if he's a baby. He doesn't feel like a toddler, and if people talk down to him he could them as being too stupid to know how grown up he is. As a result, he could have developed caution or dislike for meeting new people.
I wouldn't worry about it for now, but when he gets three or three and a half you may want to start making sure he has experiences with other children (such as with preschool). If he has any shyness to overcome he needs to get used to being "out there" early. Children of three or so get so they want to expand their world. At two, they're not quite looking to do that yet.
(That's another thing to note: Children of two are all wrapped up in their parents and home life. That's their world, and its what they love. At three, they start to look outside more. I have a feeling you son's situation is nothing more than his age perhaps combined with a little more awareness than some kids have about how people talk down to toddlers.)
2007-01-09 11:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like its seperation anxiety. which really isnt anything really bad. My little girl is like that she only wants to be wiht her mama daddy and grandma if anyone else tries to hold her she freaks out. one thing that helped out with it is we put her in daycare for a bit so that she could get used to other people and it was working out great till we had to move. but anyway try putting the baby in daycare i know that it will be hard and the baby will cry for you for a couple of weeks but then the baby will adjust.
2007-01-09 07:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by smurf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋