Hey, I need help dealing with my insecurities. I recently met a wonderful man and we’ve had nothing but an excellent relationship and have spent every free moment together. He’s perfect but I can’t seem to trust him. He gets calls from women that he says are only his friends, even his ex-girlfriend thinks she can pop by and say hi. He says there’s nothing wrong with that coz he doesn’t love her any more. Last night he got a message from a woman asking if he had told his girl the news and that she hoped not. What was that? I don’t like snooping on him, but not knowing just kills me? I really don’t have reason not to trust him but he got upset when I told him I saw the message. Does that give me cause to worry? Or am I just being a bitc* about the whole thing? Help.
2007-01-08 23:42:49 · 6 answers · asked by Gypsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same problem with my ex he had all these girl friends calling which by the way were his ex's so yeah I understand what you are going through. I asked my ex the same thing and he said I was too jealous well, I got some outside help and they said that it's really not normal for men to have so many female friends. But, if you love him then trust him and if you have any feelings of insecurity then go with your gut instincts. But, don't do anything you will regret. I hope I helped and good luck!
2007-01-08 23:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by pebblespunk2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with all my ex's. I have a lot of male friends I spend time with as well. I can't have a man in my life that doesn't understand that. You are just insecure. This is a big turn off for a lot of guys. You said you "don't like snooping" but you are doing it anyway. Keep it up and you'll run him off. Accept things for what they are or you'll drive yourself and your man crazy. Jealousy is poison!
2007-01-08 23:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even although hes had believe topics contained in the previous, he needs to work out that your being real to him. If it keeps, then I say flow on. Why be in a courting even as the different human being cant and wont ever believe you? Is it extremely worth each of the attempt? basically have a severe communicate with him. If hes prepared to sit down and pay interest to you and allow you to comprehend techniques he feels, then with somewhat of success he will change.
2016-12-28 12:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should disguss this with him... telling him that ur having trouble trusting because of all these other women... tell him that u want to trust him because u love spending time with him and that he is great but u just want to know what is going on so that u can trust him... hopefully he will let u in on it all... Good luck =]
2007-01-08 23:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by becstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now be realistic for a minute. Now that he's met you and is going out with you, do you expect him to sever every tie from his past? Would you like that if he expected it of you?
2007-01-08 23:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. You are not crazy & are justified in feeling insecure - I would.
2007-01-08 23:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋