I have a friends with benefits issue. It started with we were talking about two years ago, eveything was going fine but I thought he did not want anything serious so I got involved with another guy. We have stopped talking for about a year. Just recently I got single again and we've been seeing eachother again. I've fallen so inlove with him. But my friends tell me not to see him because he is on and off with his ex-girlfriend! Every time we see eachother we end up going to the next level. What should I do? I'm so in love with him. Should I listen to my friend?
2007-01-08 23:28:01 · 7 answers · asked by annette1911 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's on and off with his girlfriend, sounds like he doesn't love you. He just gets the benefits from her when he's with her, and from you when he's not. If he ends up with her properly, he won't carry on with you too, and you'll end up being hurt. My advice is to be friends, but without the "benefits".
2007-01-08 23:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends w/ benifits is actually, cake and eat it too. Life is gearing up to send u a hard message toots.It's called the light that never warms, u have what is in ur imagination. I would never play seriously w/ the on and off game. Just like I'd never turn a girl away who gives it for free. if ur looking for ur eutopia, maybe u'll find it after u've drug urself through hell here. Happy Trails!
2007-01-09 07:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have only 1 friend with benefits you are risking to develop feelings for the friend so go out and some more friends with benefits. The reason why you are feeling like this now is becuase you came out of a relationship.
The same thing happend to me and it turned out that i only felt that way because i was lonely.
2007-01-09 08:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by benefits,you mean "f*ckbuddies", if yes read below.
I think it is just plain id, the two of you. I don't think either one of you love each other, it is just probably PURE BENEFITS you got from each other.
I think you should think hard if you really love him, or lust him. What assurance you get that if ever you became couple, you wouldn't be like his current on and off girlfriend. And do you really want the two of you to be couple and to have a commitment, is that what you really want, or maybe just f***buddies is enough.
2007-01-09 07:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Free D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are often idiots who give advice that is in their own interest and has nothing to do with your best interest. Man-up and make your play for the guy. If it fails, and he goes back to his ex, who cares. Odds are that you'll end up being with another 10 guys before settling down anyway, so just set your expectations going in. Get in the game.
2007-01-09 07:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by rex_razor69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should listen to your friends and make sure never to meet this guy again. he will only break your heart. for him you will always be his friend with benefits and in between he will seek out other girls. i know myself... i've been there for a long time!
2007-01-09 07:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend know you more than you do ( they probably want the best for you)
2007-01-09 07:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by codedfeelins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋