I've met a man, who is amazing in every way. Hes kind, loving, intelligent, funny and a few good many other things. But he has no clothes sence, he dresses older than he is. I love clothes, and fashion. And no I'm not shallow, I just like to look good, and he adores the clothes I wear. Almost expects me to dress the way I do. I love this man so much, and hes the best thing thats happened to me. He does know he has no clothes taste, so would it be so bad if I pointed him in the right direction??
2007-01-08 23:11:25 · 26 answers · asked by Chickette 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honey if he has already acknowledged that he has no dress sense then Im sure he'd appreciate your input...especially if he's said he likes your fashion sense...sounds like it's time to take him shopping!
2007-01-08 23:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by panda64 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. although be gentle in how you do it. Take it in baby steps because the thing is, he doesnt know he dresses bad. In fact, he thinks his clothes look good or he wouldnt have bought them.
So the trick is to go out and buy him a couple of things that are a little closer to where you want him to go without being so far removed from what he noramly wears that he feels totally uncomfortable wearing them.
once you have him wearing a few things you like fairly regularly the next step is to point out the stuff you do like every time you stop to look in a shop. Talk about it, dont jsut say "thats nice. buy it." explain why you like it, get him interested in clothes. Chances are after a couple of months you'll see a huge improvement.
That's how my ex got me away from bright solid colour shirts, black trousers and leather shoes every weekend ;)
2007-01-08 23:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Have2Laugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha you have just taken me back 4 years to when i met my husband! I just bought him things i thought he would suit then told him how sexy he looked in them. We have sort of compromised now and his dress sense is better, but i dont interfere too much. If we are going somewhere important i will just say 'can i pick something out for you' or 'will you wear those pants i bought ,you look gorgeous in them' if he knows what im doing then he doesnt seem to mind and most of the clothes i have bought him have outnumbered his now anyhow. Its not bad to point him in the right direction but dont try and change him too much x
2007-01-08 23:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldnt necessarily be a bad thing to point him in the right direction but dont try to change the person you fell in love with. If you try to change someone in one area, they'll change in another in order to counterbalance it. SO..changing his appearance to make him look a little more stylish could change his personality a little. And to balance the positive effect on the clothes, it has to balance itself again so that the personality trait may be a good one lost. Never try to change a person. Respect them for who they are and not what they are. It shouldn't matter what he dresses in as long as you deeply care for him and like the person he is.
Now, with the fact that he basically expects you to dress the way you do all the time, he shouldnt expect that of you. You should be able to dress in what you want as long as it's not overly showy. Tastes can happen to change in any person as with the fashion industry. You should be able to dress the way YOU want without it affecting his love for you at all.
As with all things, you should be able to see this from both sides. Basically, the both of you are fine just the way you are. You should not have to dress the way he wants you to if you don't want to but you also shouldn't tell him what to dress in if you truly care about him.
But all is in your hands. This is only advice and can be taken for granted or just completely ignored. Whichever helps. Good luck all the matter!
2007-01-08 23:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Robert B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No harm in wanting to point him in the right direction! As long as he's willing, and you aren't pushing it on him all at once I think it's just fine. Just don't change all of his clothes all at once, he might feel a little uncomfortable to go out in public in a style he's never worn before.
I was in a similar situation before with my ex...he dressed a lot older than he was (tight jeans, tucked in shirts, and all white dorky tennis shoes!) I really liked him a lot, and just tried to help, but he took it the wrong way and got mad at me, thinking I was trying to change him. Make sure you explain to your man that you are just trying to point him in the right direction.
Good luck! :)
2007-01-08 23:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, he is rebelling against his Mother or an ex.-girlfriend who once criticised his Dress Sense?
Or maybe he just doesn't see the importance of it all, and would rather put the Emphasis on other things he thinks are more important.
I think you have a right to question him, up to a point, but don't freak him out!
Women put more emphasis on clothes than men.
I know - I've just broken up with a woman who criticised MY lack of Clothes Sense!!!
2007-01-08 23:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing wrong in that. Most guys do not take fashion seriously, so it probably won't be such a big deal for him. You'll only show that you really care. BTW, he's probably aware that he's not exactly fashionable but he might not have the sense or knowledge to change that, so he may welcome any suggestion you can give. Just work out your approach to the whole issue and go ahead.
2007-01-08 23:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by DGJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you go about it. I have no fashion sense either, and acknowledge it readily. If the way you go about it smacks of consdecention, then you are wrong. If you ever watch "What not to wear", you'll notice that most of those people are hurt when someone comes into their personal space, and sets out to show them how bad their taste really is, no matter how good the intentions were.
If you are able to give him direction without making him feel bad about himself, then, like me, he will probably welcome any direction you would like to give him!
2007-01-08 23:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and be subtle, buy him a top/trousers and say why dont you try it on you'd look so sexy in this, or go shopping with him and if you just say how sexy he looks in some of the clothes and how attractive he is normally but he just seems so magnetic forceful and manly in this(something different). Just try and pander to his ego without actually saying you dont like his dress sense. Its not bad most men dont have a clue with clothes but just be careful you dont try and change who he is!xx
2007-01-08 23:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by pinkjessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's a bad thing to offer advice on the style of clothing your boyfriend wears. Dressing stylishly is really not a difficult task, read through GQ especially and help him to understand what style is. Focus on suits, jeans, dress shirts, and t shits.
2007-01-08 23:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by sydneymyke86 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's in the right direction, only he doesn't like to be complicated or maybe he doesn't know. You can show him a reason 'cuz i like to be looking good and fresh and it doesn't hurt the feeling of someone to be fashioned. Go ahead!
2007-01-08 23:16:19 · answer #11 · answered by Jhonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋