ok i been dating this guy for alittle over a year. He has recently asked me to have sex with a friend (of his choice) while he watches.. and if i would be comfortable watching him have sex with another girl of (my choice) my question is why.. what would someone get out of watching there partner with someone else?? I'm not put off by the idea but i would like to know the thinking behind it before i make a decition..
2007-01-08 23:00:30 · 32 answers · asked by angeliss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hm
I think when u cherish something you will always want to protect it
That's why guys realy get jealous when someone else is trying to run their gals
A father who truly loves his daughter wont invite his friends to have sex with his daughter coz he always wants to protect her
The same should be for a guy who really loves you
Probably u'll end up being a topic of discussion like
"how did u find her" and all those and
I dont think he'll really respect you for that
Look beyond this relationship
Will u ever forgive yourself for that act even after you break up with him
What if he starts to have sex with your friend after this game?
Wont u really get stabbed?
Hunny i know u have choices but please look into the future
Is this a past u will be glad to rem and tell your kids about
Trust u to make the right choice
Take Charge
2007-01-08 23:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tata 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thinking behind this is his sexual fantasy,he likes to watch and he is open minded and would like permission to be with another woman.I personally would tell him I would have sex with one of his friends...(my choice) and I would have sex with another girl(my choice)either all at once or separately and I would film it for him to watch on the night of my choice.If you want to do what he has asked that's great but do not do it just to please him if you are uncomfortable with it.Its something that could very well ruin friendships and be the beginning of the end of your relationship with Mr.wonderful.Did it ever occur to your boyfriend that you would enjoy sex with his friend better then sex with him?Did it occur to him that may start an affair between you and the friend that makes him extremely angry with himself and insecure for years to come?Ask him.?
2007-01-09 00:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said your not put off by the idea, does this mean you don't care where this relationship goes or is it that your bored and am curious too, since your not put off ask yourself why your interested and it's probably the same as him. but if you really care about him your in for a heart ache cause he is incapable of being in a intimate relationship and he WILL BREAK YOUR HEART so if you think your "in love" cut it off before he hurts you or chalk it up as if it doesn't kill you it makes you stronger and wiser but either way he's not in for the long haul, if that is what your wondering if not go for it girl get your freak on. but from experience there will be a night or two that you will spend in regret and shame. it will come but it goes as it comes. what's your reason?
2007-01-08 23:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by fearthis1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many, many people (both men and women) have fantasies about watching sex or being watched while doing it. It's a normal kink that's not uncommon at all.
Of course, bringing in outside partners can always cause problems with jealousy...either from you, or from him. But he might actually WANT to feel jealousy while watching you with another guy...that can also be a sexual turn-on for many people.
The big question is whether or not you want to help him satisfy his sexual proclivities.
2007-01-08 23:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by ardra71 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that when that happens is because you have been very experimental with him as far as sex goes and thats probably the next sex act on his agenda or it could be that he does not respect you and thinks of you as a slut therefore he wants to watch you take it in the butt.
2007-01-08 23:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea69 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
imsori that u r inlove with this type of guy.i hope n pray to God that no one in my family will get a guy like this.
this is humiliating,not respecting u as a lady.
why not u sit down and think for a while...imagine this..u r married,hv ur own children,took care of them nice n proper, when they grow up,they have bf and they come crying home to tell you that this happen to them OR think about this you r married and hv ur own kids.one day one of ur daughters come back and ask hv u done this before...would u b brave enoungh or hv the courage to explain to her why you did that n why she cant???
so please if u love urself ...leave this guy or he will hurt you badly..already he has no respect for u by asking u to do that...what more can u expect frm a guy like this..girl??
2007-01-08 23:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by rozy al bakish 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you are hot, and wants to watch live porn with a hot chic (which.. in his eyes, is you)
But it will create a ton of jealousy, and it will destroy your relationship. He will always be wondering if you liked his friend better then you like him. And you will wonder if he imagines having sex with that girl instead of you now.
I totally wouldn't do it. But there is your answer to the reasoning behind it... Good Luck. ..
2007-01-08 23:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by natalie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to ask him directly. Don't beat around the bush about it. Think about how you honestly feel about it and then tell him. It sounds to me if he has you watching...the next thing would be direct involvement with multiple people. Do you want this?
2007-01-08 23:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No,no,no. For him to ask you this is just disrespectful you are worth better than that. What this will come down to in the end is how much you value yourself, this is something that if you went ahead with it will haunt you for the rest of your life mainly in your self conscience
2007-01-08 23:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hunny Don't Do That.
He's Going To Use You Then Hurt You! It's Not Worth It.
2007-01-08 23:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by † Dark Prince † 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋