i am becoming increasingly worried about my 11 month old child.she hits her head on hard surfaces like chairs and tables when she wants to be picked up or to have a toy,this morning she woke up and started crying,after sometime when nobody picked her up,she started hitting her head on her crib.i find this disconcerting.is it normal? will she outgrow it? is it a sign of something? anybody have any experience about this? what am i supposed to do? any cause for alarm ? apart from this she has no other problem whatsoever. she stops hitting her head on hard surfaces once she is picked up or given what she wants.please help !!!
2007-01-08 22:42:15 · 11 answers · asked by bestofyou 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My mother-in-law has been telling me to get ready for this because when my husband was little he would bang his head a lot. So I done a lot of reading on it and I'm planning to try to do baby sign language to help with the communication barrier. I don't know if it's too late to start for an 11 month old. My mother-in-law said she made my husband wear a special helmet because he banged his head so much. Good LUCK!
2007-01-08 23:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had these exact same questions for my son when he was about that same age. He is 16 months old and still does it sometimes. I asked the dr and they said it's because the child is starting to know exactly what they want, but they don't know how to tell you so they get frustrated. This makes perfect sense as my son is starting to be able to tell me (or show me) what he wants, and bangs his head less.
You can ask your doctor, but I bet she outgrows it. Good luck! It's scary being a parent lol
2007-01-08 22:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by natalie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this must be scary for you. The best way to decrease this display of frustation is to stop the frustation. If she needs to be picked up, pick her up. In fact, carrying her in a sling(something I did when my now toddler was your child's age) worked wonders for me! It is STILL working wonders, eventhough I don't use the sling anymore. My baby hardly ever cried, and now that I don't carry him all the time, people are amazed at how even tempered he is. 11-months old is too early for delayed gratification(waiting while you do something else,etc).
Imagine that you were in a cage alone, in a dark room, in a foreign country, unable to get food, unable to talk to anyone, unable to clean your own messy pants. You have one friend in this foreign land that half way speaks your language. You call out to your friend from your cage, and no one answers. You call again, and no response. In pure deseperation, you call louder and louder. Finally, you give up. You cry, you go mad. You imagine that you could possibly die without this friend's help. This is prehaps exactly how your child is feeling when she wakes up in her crib and you aren't there, or when you don't respond to her request when she needs you to. If you were in her situation, and your friend only came half the time when you needed her, your cries would probably always be desperate. But if your friend came EVERYTIME you called, almost as soon as you called, overtime you would begin to trust that your friend will come and respond when you needed her or him.
Take all of her request seriously, because they are serious, so that she knows that you are willing and ABLE to meet all of her needs. Soon enough, she will be begging you to put her down, let go of her hand, and let her "do it herself", but right now she needs you to be there pronto-for everything. Once you gain her trust in your abilities, and willingness to ALWAYS be there exactly when she calls, she will be less frustrated and have less of a need to express frustration.
You sound like a great mom! Mothering is hard, and so very exhausting sometimes. Email me anytime if you wish!
2007-01-09 02:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by chicalinda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's doing it because by now it's a tried and tested method of getting what she wants! My youngest son did exactly the same thing so we tied a blanket to the rails on his cot so he wouldn't injure himself. We also put him in the travel cot we had for visiting. It has soft mesh sides so was perfect for tantrums. when he'd kick up a stink, we'd put him in thee until he calmed down because when he was in one of his moods, no amount of cuddling or mollycoddling would work, he'd just try headbutting me if I picked him up. When he got used to going in the travel cot when he did it and started to learn it wouldn't get him what he wanted it stopped. I know how you feel, it's so upsetting to watch but it IS just a phase, I promise you xx
2007-01-09 03:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend's child did the same. I used to worry more than his Mother! Now: he is in his 30's ,happily married & neither of his toddlers do this! He kept a bruise right in the center of his forehead-nary a dent or scar now!
2007-01-08 22:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son did the same thing, around the same age, it worried me to death! i didn't know what was going on with him, he'd bang his head on the floor, off walls, anything. it's very scary, but he out grew it just fine, no damage done, thank goodness, now i hear a lot of stories of little ones that do it, it seems pretty common.
2007-01-09 02:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by 26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the single factor I constantly verify is for dilation of the scholars...this and drowsiness, confusion. If my son falls I exhibit screen him heavily for an hour or so after. And to "Claudys" Do you relatively have infants? All infants have injuries because of the fact issues ensue so directly...and you watch infants even whilst they seem to be a million...moron.
2016-10-06 21:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ the 1st answer, but just in-case let the Dr. know, children w/ autism do that too
2007-01-08 22:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in-law once told me that my husband used to do this alot when he was a child.you must try to make her understand that this MUST stop,she could be badly injured.she must learn that she can't have everything she wants.......
2007-01-09 00:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone walk away she'll realize eventually that's not working anymore and quit cause it hurt's you ovously gave in to her so she wouldn't do that anymore so walk away from her don't give in at all! my son use to make himself pass out and he knew that would make me give in but i stopped and just walked away from him he stopped he realized like i said it didn't work anymore
2007-01-09 01:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkinbugaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋