2007-01-08 21:49:07 · 18 answers · asked by phyllis_gene_levy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you have to understand that everything happens for a reason. God is a loving God and would never do anything just to hurt you. in this time you need to draw near to God and talk to him. ask him to guide you down the path he wants you to go down. have trust in the lord and he will guide you (proverbs 3:5-6). just have faith. sometimes its hard to see why something happens to a loved one. our minds are finite and we couldnt begin to understand why God allows things to happen. but know that it is all for good.
some helpful verses would be
Isaiah 43:2
II Thessalonians 2:16-17
Matthew 5:4
II Corinthians 1:3-4
Isaiah 61:1-3
Isaiah 41:10
II Corinthians 5:8
Revelation 21:4
2007-01-08 22:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kenneth H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deals with it in their own way because it is their way and no others know it.
Now I know that there are many books that deal with the subject and they have some very clear explanations of the grieving process and I have seen how they can help many people. However I deal with the loss by understand what caused it, how did that persons life put them in that position which resulted in their death, I have always found an answer and your answer is right there it might be very simple but there is an answer and if you can't accept it then through the entire grieving process will you go.
Celebrate their life with yours or you can let yours suffer with them. How does he want you to carry on? Remember him for the lessons and love he gave you…
2007-01-08 22:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by James 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eish ma,its really sad but nothing in this world happens without a reason.We often ask ourself why but we never get answers.God is with you and he is watching over you all the way.You can read Jeremiah29:11.You really are going trhough tough time but be strong and dont loose hope.Pray as much as you can,talk to God,and pour your heart to him he is listening.I will also pray for you.May the Lord be with trhogh your grief and may you find peace in him.Be blessed!!
2007-01-08 22:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by FORTUNATE K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The process of grief follows basic steps to moving on in life, but we all take different amounts of time in doing so. Mourn as long as you feel the need to, and always treasure the moments you spent with him after you move on.
2007-01-08 22:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The scriptures tell us friend that there is a time to grieve and mourn. Six months is not a long time to get past the loss of a spouse. As another poster said grieve as long as you feel you need to. Then when your ready and your heart is ready to recieve Gods comfort he will comfort you.
One thing to keep in mind also as you attempt to get past your grief... be thankful for the time you had your husband... focus on the time you had together instead of on the loss... because also remember this.... thanks to Jesus Christ its only a temporary seperation .... you will rejoin your husband one day.... never to part again.
God bless you will be praying for you :)
2007-01-08 21:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by PreacherTim63(SFECU) 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Friend, My wife of 21 yrs. died in 1989, she spent 304 days in ICU, she was 37, God gave me the grace to go on with life, It is hard, But we must go on, I am now remarried to a widow that also lost her husband in 1985, My wife I have now is a wonderful Christian woman. We sometimes can't see or understand why things happens, But God was with me all the time. When it seems like your world is turn upside down, always look to God. He WILL bring you through.
2007-01-09 00:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God has a lovely garden
In His mansion up above,
He tends the garden every day
With tenderness and love.
The flowers that are in it
Are the sweetest and the best,
To get into God's garden
You have to pass a test.
He goes around them every day
Treating them with care,
You're really very lucky
You have a flower in there.
And when you reach the garden
You'll look at it with pride,
Knowing God, He'll put you
At your loving husband's side.
2007-01-08 22:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you Christian...? I ask because I do not wish to intrude on your grief, and I ask because I am Buddhist and I'd like to assist in small measure with my limited insight on family tragedy to try and eleviate some of the pain you feel if you'll allow me to intrude a while...
My wife's grandmother passed a year ago with devastating impact on my wife and I too suffered her grief.
As Buudhists my wife's family invited me to attend the rites which lasted over a 5 day period. Her family keep making merit for her and other members who have passed, similar to the Christian Practise of lighting candles to a loved one in church.
Buddhists consider the Life of any Being precious and Death to Buddhists is considered only a small part of that Life. Life to us is a cycle beginning at Birth through Life to Death, after Death the story diverges for each Faith away from Buddhist Teaching but is not so very different. For Buddhists there is possible Rebirth to another Life depending on Karma...
Of course I do not expect you to understand or even consider these concepts...I only mention them for comparison...
Christians on the other hand consider that after the person dies Their 'soul' goes to Heaven to be judged before entry into that Kingdom...I do not dispute this at all....for Buddhists then Life continues through a Rebirth...for Christians Life continues through the 'soul' migrating to Heaven...there is as you see a correllation in the divergent 'Faiths' that of a continuing journey...we all take journeys throughout Life...each journey we take has a beginning and an end generally through the choices we make...your husband's journey continues....one journey ends then another new one begins...we are perhaps not so very different after all...
These then are the 2 ideologies...on the surface very different and diverse....it would follow then that your husbands 'soul' is now in Heaven awaiting judgement...to me as a Buddhist not really a bad place to be....as a good man, husband and Christian he is assured of a good judgement and therefore assured of entry into God's Kingdom....
Why then weep....rejoice in his entry...was he not a good husband and provider, was he not a good Christian man who Loved Jesus and followed His Word, I'm sure that Jesus never said that we were to be perfect, even He was tempted in His Life if I remember the story correctly....you have no reason to weep for him but personal sadness for his loss, we can never forget our loved ones and neither should we do so....reflect on his elevated status now as a child of God in Heaven awaiting your arrival later on with gladness and hope, for I'm sure that he is just as sad for not having you there yet with him...
Be at Peace my friend...from a Buddhist...
2007-01-09 05:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Gaz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone deals with grief differently.
There aren't any set rules or time frames.
If you feel like crying, cry until you are exhausted.
If you feel angry, FEEL it, beat up your pillow.
Give your self time and grieve in your own unique way.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-01-08 21:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Yuck 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. Losing my husband is one of my worst fears. Have you considered getting professional help?
2007-01-08 21:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋