been seeing this guy for 3 months. he's sporty person which i also like but this means we cannot spend time in the afternoon at all as that is when he does most of his sports over the weekend, he said that to me clearly that there is nothing he can do about it. then i askde him what he thought of me, he didn't want to tell me coz he felt uncomfortable saying it, why? i don't know, and all he said in any case is that yeah i'm cute, sexy, he likes me and likes to spend time with me. then he said to me that we need to go out more, have fun together, but he meant going to pubs at night only. i suggested us going to watch a football match, his response was 'we can't go as we're not members' is this true? then he added 'actually that's a good idea, i have a friend that i'll need to watch a match with before he leaves for australia' i was shocked... couldn't ask any further coz i thought that spoke volumes! i'm a student, in december & jan we've been having exams & coursework to do.
2007-01-08 21:40:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he understood that i'm a student and everything but he's is getting bored with coming to visit me at home. he says it's bcoz of not doing activities together he can't make up his mind on how he feels for me. also becoz i told him i am gonna be out of the country for a month, he doesn't know whether we can take things further his reason is the fact that we've just started seeing each other and me being away for a month does not help as we haven't been doing activities together so he can't be looking frward to seeing me, even though he woud like to see me. now how can we compromise, coz i think enjoying someone's company does not depend on a place that you're in. it more to do with the two people themselves, i don't know but what do you think?
2007-01-08 21:47:46 · update #1
can i just add, i don't expect him to change, it's nice that he is sporty good for him. i am only suggesting things we could do together, for instance watching a match together, that's something he likes and so do i, but there you go, he says no we can't but he could do it with his friend? i mean.... does that mean my company isn't good enough? besides it was my idea but he's happy to share it with friends but not me who suggested at first.
2007-01-08 21:51:24 · update #2
Dump him! You don't need this drama.
2007-01-08 21:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Rosepetal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Silly women. You can't change men, but we love how you try. If he is not the way you want you man to be, he is not the man for you. Trying to change a man may sometimes seem like you are gaining ground, but in reality you are only prolonging the enevitable, because he will resent you for it and miss the freedom to be himself.
Why would you want to be with someone weak enough to allow themselves to be changed anyway?
2007-01-08 21:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say, dump him and find someone who is more your type.
unless you are equally sporty, you will suffer in the long run the usual neglect because they have friends who bond tighter due to sports.
2007-01-08 21:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have patience , before you conclude , after exam you will find him , most of the time , next to you .
2007-01-08 21:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋