Everybody's coming to the ceremony but we only want a small reception! What should I do??
2007-01-08 21:35:55 · 12 answers · asked by Bridezilla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If people are really that anal, 'Ettiquette Girl', I don't want them at my wedding. It's what I can afford. Your advice is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard of in my life! Small ceremony but large reception?! Right.
Like I can afford to feed 220 people.
2007-01-09 02:29:51 · update #1
Why not have a small intimate ceremony and a small reception? You need to consider how you would feel if you were invited to a family member's wedding but were not welcome at the reception.
One recommendation might be to have the ceremony on one day and the reception on different day, so that you aren't linking the two events (in which case the size of each won't matter).
Another might be to just have a cake/punch reception rather than a full meal or just have a cocktail reception (w/hors d'oeuvres.) That way you don't have to feed everyone a full expensive meal and you can celebrate with everyone who attends your wedding.
2007-01-09 14:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you call a small reception. We got married in March and ended up with 39 geuests in total plus us 2. We did invite some people from work with their partners. in the end we both invited 3 people from each of our places of work (plus their partners) who we worked most with - the rest just got a hefty piece of wedding cake when wew got back from honeymoon. On the other hand if you are only having about 12 people in total just make it family and best friend then no=one will get upset or everyone will. either way it works out OK.
2007-01-08 21:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude to invite people to the ceremony and not the reception, as you would be denying those guests your hospitality.
You can have small ceremony large reception, buy you CANNOT have large ceremony small reception. It doesn't work that way. You're going to really upset people when they find out they can't come to the reception.
2007-01-09 00:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your coworkers that your recption is ment for a smaller intimate group and that only close friends and family are invited or if you don't think they will listen tell them you had to pay per head for the reception and could only afford so much so only family are able to come to the reception. either way someone is going to get offended or some feathers ruffled, i woudln't worry about it if your coworkers are understanding they won't push the matter, if they do there just looking for a place to party and you dont' need that type of person at your reception anyways.
2007-01-08 21:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by athena9980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider fizzy. some thing about the way you worded this ability that you're having a separate or later reception, and if it really is the case, it truly is no longer a funky ingredient to do. You basically invite an identical team to both the ceremony and the reception. and also you extremely do not favor to comprise artwork human beings. basically because one co-worker is doing this does no longer advise you may. And please do no longer deliver team emails or tack it on a bulletin board! it truly is your wedding ceremony, no longer some casual celebration.
2016-12-28 12:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by saini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can really invite people to the ceremony but not the reception. I think it would be seen as a bit off.
2007-01-08 21:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really your choice. If you want them there invite them, bt if you would rather they didn't come just don't invite them & make sure that you mention that you are having a small reception with limited seats
2007-01-08 22:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Themby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your small reception, don't worry about explaining your self they will understand
2007-01-08 21:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't invite the freeloaders only invite family and close friends otherwise you'll be shelling out a small fortune!!!!!!!!!!! good luck
2007-01-08 21:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by willows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your wedding do whatever makes you happy. people should understand
2007-01-08 21:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by murphy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋