I have never been on a single date in my life, why, not because I am ugly or because I’m unpopular, far from it. I’m a guy in my early 20’s and I’m perfectly happy being single, but other people seem not to be, why is this? People always seem to be in a rush to be with someone, and nine times out of ten that is the reason a relationship doesn’t last that long. I’m not saying I will never date, I’m just saying why do people feel the need to rush things? Also don’t people realise they need to be happy being single first before they start dating?
2007-01-08 20:04:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your last point is a good one. We need to be comfortable with who we are, to know and love ourselves. That makes for a more secure person, and for a better relationship with others.
However, I think hormones and good old Mother Nature start in our teens to push us to reproduce. So boys get the urge to 'spread their seed' and girls to 'build a nest' at some point, hence the dating. I had no desire for children until I reached thirty - then, overnight almost, it became a need. It's great that you feel secure as you are at the moment, but you may find that you start wanting to find that special someone to share your life. In the meantime, enjoy friendships. One of them may even turn into that person!
2007-01-08 20:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because people are afraid of being alone, I have been single for 7-8 months now it is the first time I have been single since I was 17 (now 24) and it is OK nothing wrong with it at first I was a bit lonely as everyone I know is either married or in a long term relationship but now I am very happy on my own and don't want to rush into another relationship just because everyone else is in one!! I have time to myself to do the things I want for the first time in ages!!
2007-01-09 04:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree. I just left an abusive marriage after 13 years. We have 2 children ages 6 and 4. I just left 3 weeks ago and right from the beginning people are advising me to "socialize". I'm not ready and not in the mood. I like to be at home mostly with my kids, watching my favorite shows, cooking, reading, getting back into school, etc. I don't even want to have sex with someone new right away. So I feel you. Nice to know someone else feels this way. I will date soon enough when I'm ready : )
2007-01-09 04:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Veronique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You rule TPR. I think people feel pressure to "show the world" that they are with someone. Some sort of status to be with someone.
Also... some people would rather be with someone, or anyone, even the wrong person, than be alone and not in a relationship. That is weakness in my opinion. Especially down the line when they split, meet better person, or bitterly divorce. Waste of time.
2007-01-09 04:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Bloggs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow Dude Your In Your 20's ? And Never Been On A Date ? People Must Wonder About You. Anyway I Myself Prefer To Have Someone To Talk To, Some Thing's You Cannot Tell Friend's, So It Just Makes Me Feel Better Knowing Someone Is Standing Beside Me No Matter What Happen's In My Life.
2007-01-09 04:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by † Dark Prince † 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Nothing wrong with being single sometimes its better, It's as long as your happy. Often the people who need to be in a relationship are quiet clingy and needed.
2007-01-09 04:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are lonely and there's a type of kindness that can only be displayed towards a member of the opposite gender in a realationship.
The short relationship at first is because they don't have experience and mishandle the relationship or had unreal expectations.
Very few people are happy being single. I personally think its not possible unless someone is a sociopath. Have you ever tried to strangle yourself with a garter than burn your own butt with a hair curler. You can;t do it. You need a girlfriend.
2007-01-09 04:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sammer (Jim W) 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There's nothing wrong with being single. It's just that some people just cant stand being alone. No one to share experiences with. you have friends for that i know. But what about the special moments that you can only have with someone special? It doesn't necessarily mean sex when i say that.
2007-01-09 04:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Emo Koala 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they are insecure. Everyone is different so u gotta respect their own thinking. Personally, i think mostly people fall in love quite easily and thus when they love someone they wanna date them. Especially during teenage years hormones are raging and there's a lot of infatuatiion going around
2007-01-09 04:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by bronson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hay i relate to been single expanding your roots become more independent all that hogwash..i hope that you must be happy with what comes in life dont be stupid and reject someone special just cuz you like been single ..use you free time wisely cuz its human to want companianship cheers Eric..
2007-01-09 04:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by erics.life 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋