im 16 (male) and one of my friends he's also a dude, he told me he is going to commit sucide because he is gay, and he thanked me for being his friend. Is there anything i can do???
2007-01-08 19:24:38 · 26 answers · asked by aron james 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell someone right now...
2007-01-08 20:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful about outing him if he doesn't want anyone to know. Telling his parents or the police etc may just make things worse. If I was you, i would phone one of the teenage gay helplines or try search for a website.. there are quite a lot of help places out there for this kind of thing. Explain to them the situation because they deal with this more often and can advise you better than we can or perhaps the police can. Just be careful.. get him help ASAP but make sure that you're not going to make someone who may be thinking of suicide actually attempt suicide. Talk to him and stay in contact with him until you can get advise from someone in the know. Don't leave him alone, text him, call him etc in the meantime.
2007-01-08 19:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suicidehotlines.com or www.hopeline.com --both can help guide you, but in the meantime please, please tell his parents or at least yours--he really needs help--this is not a situation that you can look back on afterwards and second guess your reaction.
You don't have to tell his parents or yours that he is gay, only that he is in desperate need of help. If you don't tell someone and he does go thru with it, you will never forgive yourself for not doing more. I am so sorry that you have so much to deal with at your age, you have been put in a truly rough spot. God must have chosen you to be his confidante for a reason--you must be a really good person and friend. Good luck to you..and to your friend--I hope someday he is well and realises that being gay is not a handicap, just a different way of being.
2007-01-08 19:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone....now. Many times when someone is going to commit suicide they just do it, without telling anyone so hopefully that is the case here. You never know though. Maybe you can find someone he can relate to who can help him get through this rough time. Specifically a man who is also gay. It might help. You're a good friend.
2007-01-08 19:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really needs help from a pro. Can't he open up to his parents? He would probably feel so much relief if he could open up to a counselor or a gay teen group. Try to find him some kind of group like that. Check out:
www.english.iup.edu/liberalstudiese/gay_teen_suicide.htm
2007-01-08 19:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to call the suicide hotline.
Or if you want to be really drastic, take him to a hospital. They will admit him and watch him. They might even assign a counsellor too.
Is he gay for sure, or is it just an excuse for him to kill himself? If he is gay for sure - there is no problem. Gay people are accepted in today's society, he has no problem. If people are going to bash him at school for it, then he can just pretend to be straight until he graduates and then go to college in a different city. And then he can be himself.
2007-01-08 19:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hy im no expert cos theres no such thing im 53 a young 53 i have my arms so badly scared from when i was 20
aned beleive me life doesd go on just keep your friend chatty and most of al happy he will come round trust me
your friend sandee xox
p.ss there is noithing wrong with being gay its just his way of life thgey are gorgeous people he shjould be proud of what he is even though he is only young
god luck he has a great future xoxox\
2007-01-08 19:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let his parents know. If you can't bring yourself to tell them, then confide in your own parents. They can talk with your friends parents for you. Also make sure he doesn't spend time alone. You can also go to a school counselor or teacher. There are also suicide hotlines, but his parents really need to know about this. He may get upset with you for telling, but by him telling you he is asking for help and he will eventually forgive you.
2007-01-08 19:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by fran 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's a drama queen he's probably just doing it for attention. Tell him that there's a lot worse things he could be than Gay. If you think he's being serious then you need to tell the people that he lives with and try and get him some help.
2007-01-08 19:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably isn't serious and just crying for help. Otherwise he probably wouldn't have told you. Yet, you hate to ignore it. Most schools, at least in the midwest have "Gay" clubs at school where they can meet with other gays. Support would help. If he is not "out" yet, encourage him to. Start with school counsler. Go to them and ask what to do....quickly! They've been down this road dozens of times before. Trust me on this one. Have faith. Don't sit idle. School can help.
2007-01-08 19:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on the situation I think u really should tell someone a teacher guidence couseller his parents???? make sure u r really supportive of him and make sure he knows that u r accepting of his homosexuality mayb if he see's his closest friends accepting him he would c it's no reason to end his life, he defiently needs help if u think it is a immediate problem even if u r jepodising ur relationship u need to help him
2007-01-08 19:30:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋