About 9 months ago my fiance broke off our relationship, and I was devastated, I still am. I have never known love like I loved him and there has been a lot of hurt and backstabbing since we broke up, but I still love him and still want him back, I haven't seen him or talked to him in about 7 months, and I know if I tried to see him or talk to him, his rejection would only hurt me more, but I know he loves my kids and I think deep down he still loves me, what do I do? He was a much better dad than their own father, and my daughter still asks for him all the time. If not for me, I want him back for my kids. Do I move on and hope the love and hurt will fade or do I try to reach out to him? I just want to stop hurting, I doubt I will ever forget the love we shared. There is a lot to the whole story, and not enough room to say it. If you want more info, msg me or e-mail, please help I am so heartbroken
2007-01-08 19:24:23 · 5 answers · asked by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry for your hear break. I know how it feels. Only time will heal it. But you just need to make new friends and hope for the best. You cant make him love you. So just try some new friends while you heal. Good luck sweetie.xxx
2007-01-08 21:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when we hurt we are actually healing ourselves. 7 months is a long time to lapse before reaching out to your ex. You didn't say why you broke up which could be a determining factor in the decision making process. I am a romantic person that goes all out for love, especially when it feels good (85% of the time). If you know that you won't be happy without attempting to regain the relationship, then go for it.
If you know that you are doing this only for the sake of the kids or to keep from being lonely, get over him and open yourself up to new possibilities. Children can adapt easily to the people who surround them. Whatever you do, don't allow yourself to be depressed or to cling on to a hopeless dream if you know it isn't realistic.
This is the best advice I can give you without requesting all the intimate details... Good Luck!
2007-01-08 19:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u have to move on, the sooner the better, find someone else who will love u back, if he really did love u, he wouldn't have abandoned u the way he did, my guess is he's moved on and you probably should too, what makes u think he still loves u deep down inside???
2007-01-08 19:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Paulie Paul 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so sorry funny am in shoes ut mine its diffrent cos i ve no kids but the bottem in our case is we ve to move on when a man wants to stays ad ot cat stop him ut whe a ma does ot wat to stay notin can also change his mind so my dear you ve to move on cos am moving on and remeber anybody that does not want to be with was never meant to be part of your destiny, also rember when a door closes God has a way of opening d window for a better person but that is only possiable when you forget d closed door (ex relationship) my break up wit my ex fiancee caused a lot of pain and bittrness but i just let go and looked up to God for a better soul mate sooner or latter,
so my forget d heart break and look up to kids n God for a better husband and a better father to ur kids take care and happy better new year cheers
2007-01-08 19:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by chigirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wont hurt to try. The worst that could happen is your in the same position you are now.
2007-01-08 19:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋