ok i been dating this guy for alittle over a year. he has recently asked me to have sex with one of his friends while he watches.. and if i would be comfortable watching him have sex with another girl.. my question is why.. what would someone get out of watching there partner with someone else?? I'm not put off by the idea but i would like to know the thinking behind it before i make a decition..
2007-01-08 19:15:32 · 24 answers · asked by angeliss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him why he wants to do this. What specifically about this turns him on.
This isn't something normal. This could be simply a clever way for him to have you approve of his sleeping with one of your friends. He could also want to watch you being humiliated.
Either way he's saying that he doesn't want you guys to be sexually tied down to each other and unless you're both into this sort of commitment-free relationship, this is not going to work.
Let him explain himself and unless it's a really good explanation and you really think he's such a great guy that you can overlook this sort of thing ONCE, then you should take his advice and find someone else to be with, he's just not going to be there to watch...
2007-01-08 19:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok the "watch my partner having sex with another" fantasy is normally because he wants to see as an outsider how you look while having sex, the same thing with you watching him. Do your thinking, decide if you want to do it, it may be fun. It may get awkward at some point afterwards. try not to do it with very close friends. Talk it over with him...if thats his thinking you can also get a camcorder and tape yourselfs. The pesimist option is that he wants to have sex with another girl and all this is just a set up so you dont look at it as an unfaithful act.
2007-01-08 19:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Happy hippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow......well granted I would never do such a thing....but he's into voyeurism (hope i spelled that right). Least this is the word for it i think, likes to watch people have sex. In this case it's his own live porno...with you in it. I suppose it's also a means to practically cheat on you but be justified in it since if you can do it so can he.
If you're into that kind of thing more power to ya, guy sounds more like a swinger than someone who can make a stable relationship.
2007-01-08 19:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure you go first. He may be into the idea especially of him being with another woman but very few can actually go through with it when they see their woman enjoying another man. He may change his mind when it comes to the crunch.
A lot of people actually enjoy watching their partner enjoying themselves but you should probably ask him what HIS thinking is behind it. If you're open enough to discuss these things, surely he can tell you why it turns him on. His reasons may be different to others.
2007-01-08 19:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a fantasy. It turns some guys-on to watch their partner having sex with another person and even joining in. You should try it or you will never know.
2007-01-08 19:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u have to understand the psychology of a woman and a man. Woman very rarely shares her partner. She can’t tolerate to share her man; there are very few women who share their man with another girl openly. Where as, men some time share their women quite easily. Or at least they fantasies about it, but woman even don’t fantasies this thing.
2007-01-08 19:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most people sex is a private and relationship building thing-- if you take this guy seriously then dont do it, reason being he is open to cheating on you and he won't even feel bad.
And by the way-- this is not normal and most guys don't fantasize about giving their girlfriend to someone else
2007-01-08 19:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Cyrill sneer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is known as voyeurism.... it's a sort of fetish, meaning the person has dallied with quite a bit of porn and is walking around in that state pretty much 75% of the day... it means that they want to watch another man have sex with you -- that's sort of an indicator of their being latently homosexual.... it means they have no principles and would probably have sex with their grandmother (or maybe did) if she was around when they were drunk and randy....
Let this one go. You sound like a sensible young woman.
2007-01-08 19:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask why. You better not do it. He sounds like a perverted creep thats using you for his sexual pervertedness, Whats he going to ask next, if only after a year you guys are that bored with each other I would hit the road and not look back .
2007-01-08 19:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by DropTopAle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay...take this slow. I've been, shall we say, no.3 on occasion and I've seen some bad things happen to couples. Don't do it unless you are willing to gamble on how he'll feel about you and how you'll feel about him afterwards. This is a tough one if you don't know what you're getting into. Good luck.
2007-01-08 19:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by redebeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋