my gf and I have been together for over a year and in the 1st 3 to 4 months of the relationship, we were having sex almost everyday. Now for the past 3 months, we do it once a week...maybe. I've had a heart to heart talk with her about it and she said that she has been stressing about her parents and her debt that she has which is understandable. But then, she takes me to all these stores that sell sex toys and all and I think to myself "are you kidding me, you won't have sex with me until the planets align, but you drag me into a sex store"???? I love her so much, but I'm worried that maybe she might be falling out of love with me, or maybe I'm not satisfying her in bed which is why she wants it less. am I just being paranoid or should I really be worried??? thanx!
2007-01-08 18:43:59 · 17 answers · asked by AC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you mean. Just before my divorce, I asked my wife one evening if she wanted to fool around. She skirted the issue by saying that she had an appointment with her gynaecologist first thing in the morning and she wanted to be nice and fresh.
I asked "do you have to go to the Dentist too?" I was served with papers the next day.
2007-01-08 18:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that the courting phase is over. She knows she doesn't have to work as hard because she knows that you two are exclusive now. She knows that you're not going any where. She's comfortable.
You can try two things...
1. You two should be apart for the weekend. Let her spend time with her family or friends for a weekend. Or you can have the weekend trip. The point is to be away for a short while.
When you get together again, hopefully both of you will miss each other. And remember how to appreciate each other again.
2. If that doesn't work. Have a really, smokin' hottie female platonic friend. But have no intension of being unfaithful. This is not to torture your girlfriend. That's very sick and twisted. You're girlfriend won't feel so safe any more. She will realize that she has a good thing going and now has competition. She won't be in the comfort zone anymore. She now has to compete for your attention and affection.
Research has shown that the chemical & psychological affects of being in love dramatically decreases after 2 years in a steady relationship. So to keep the love affects strong, you'll have to mixed things up and keep things interesting. Hence #1 and #2 suggestions.
Good luck.
2007-01-08 19:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ight the problem might be that she is in the relationship becasue she wanted better things then sex ya know. Woman like to connect in all different ways and sometimes its just not by sex. Ask her what she wants and is the sex too much? Yeah have the talk. Good Luck
2007-01-08 18:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she wants more than just plain vanilla sex.. by that i mean, you two may be doing the same thing over and over again. She is probably trying to get you to do something different and more exciting. go with her next time, ask her what she wants that you two can do together the next time you two "get busy". Don't forget that just because you have the girl already, that you don't have to romance her anymore. That can help with the relationship and she might be more excited to have sex more often.
2007-01-08 18:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Asia_Unscripted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh don't worry about it.... Sex gets boring with the same guy after awhile... Thats why she's bringing you to the sex shops... to spice the sex life up.... Take it all in boy, cause it gets more fun after that!!!!! Bring toys into bed... like a vibrator....
It's not that youre not satisfying her, shes just getting bored of same old ..... Which is normal!!!!!
Use sex toys,and try different things.. Watch porns to get new ideas. and you'll be back on track again.. It's just a rutt, you'll fall back on teh road.
2007-01-08 18:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason why she doesnt have sex with you more often is because she wants to try new things...have another heart to heart talk with her...but this time talk about how she likes you to have sex. If theres any fantasy she may have, but her one of the toys she mentioned...as a surprise. try new potisions, new enviroment, new adventures, role play....anything to distract her from the problems she's having.
good luck
2007-01-08 18:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Happy hippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any medication involved? That is a very common side effect with alot of depression meds. Also, maybe her foray into the sex shops is her way of trying to make the effort to get into it.
2007-01-08 18:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal for a woman over the age of 60.
2007-01-08 18:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying to tell you something, what I don't know exactly. If she doesn't want it, then it makes no sense unless she is more into pleasing herself. Ask her why you going into a sex store
2007-01-08 18:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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