Ok I think I might like my best friend. How in the world do i ask him out (if I decde to) or how do I drop hints that I want him to ask me out? I dont really want to ak him out because every tim its ended badly. Remember I am a modest girl and 13 so..... ya. Anyway, thanks 4 all your help! :D
2007-01-08 18:39:09 · 10 answers · asked by lauranakf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go ahead. Ask. It's OK, what's the worst thing that could happen - you learn how he really feels?
Instructions
•STEP 1: Make the first move - men have traditionally borne the burden of asking women out. No more.
•STEP 2: Do something you enjoy together. Since you're already friends, you have an idea of what interests him. Find an event that you know he'll enjoy.
•STEP 3: Make it happen. Some women can just ask for what they want; others tend to be more shy or uncomfortable about that. If you're too shy to ask him in person, call him or e-mail him.
•STEP 4: Tell him you saw such-and-such was happening on a particular day and you thought you'd like to go. Would he like to go with you? The trick is to sound like you're going to go anyway. This takes the pressure off of both of you to make it formal.
•STEP 5: Take a chance - one of the biggest fears for many people is "ruining the relationship." Get over it. If he says no, do you really believe he won't be your friend anymore? You'll most likely flatter him. Avoid the awkwardness by being casual about it. Leave him a way to say no without making either of you feel bad.
•STEP 6: Don't beat yourself up about how stupid you were if he does say no. You've accomplished something here: He knows you like him. Now leave the ball in his court. If he makes a counteroffer, you're in!
•STEP 7: If he backs off and acts awkward, give him time to get over it, and resume your friendship when he is ready.
•STEP 8: Don't, under any circumstances, ask him out more than twice. If you've ever been on the receiving end of a crush, you understand how uncomfortable this can be.
Tips & Warnings
•Think about why you are such good friends. If you have romantic feelings for him, it's best to figure out if there is a chance for the two of you as a couple, as opposed to standing by as he asks out your best friend.
•This could hurt your friendship, but being honest with yourself and your friend is worth the risk.
2007-01-08 18:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ask. tell him that you like him and your feelings have changed for him...
you are only 13, so you have nothing to lose. well, i guess age really doesn't matter, but you have nothing to lose anyways. just ask. he will apprciate your honesty and courage. if he blows you off, you two can go back to best friends. people make things more complicated than they actually are. don't feel awkward if he says no, i mean, it's not gonna be easy for you. but, hey, it's really no big deal. if you show him that you are the type of girl who can get rejected and bounce right back up, he will definetly respect you a lot more as a friend.
good luck :)
2007-01-08 18:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Deesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet, start with: Hey looking great, nice shirt or what perfume are you wearing?
If you know what he likes to talk about, keep the discussion going. Ask his plans for the next week & take it up from there. No book can tell you what has to be done. It has to happen in natural flow of talk.
All the best!!!
2007-01-08 18:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Vik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do your parents allow you to date yet? If you are not sure, ask them. Ask him: "would you like to get together for lunch this Saturday?" Before asking him, have a few places in mind. A food court at the mall might be a good place. But be sure it's ok with your parents first.
2007-01-08 18:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Santa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes anything like me, he might be realli shy to ask u out. have u asked him out before? u sed it ended badly, is that the same guy? If you wanna drop hints, i guess just talk to him everyday, i remember dis girl who had a crush on me IMs me everyday. or, tell ur friends, and the information will eventually reach him lol.
2016-05-22 22:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
will it depends on what you did. don't be too desprade cuz that ruins everything and makes you a fool. Will really connect with him and more then you would in a day. Show him that you care. Help him, chill with him even though its just so boring. Then it'll work itself up. you'll see.
2007-01-08 18:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend.....first most, let him know that you like him and then let it work out. Guys will almost always take charge once they know that they are admired or looked up to or liked, or loved. Just let him know. If he is your best friend then he will accept this, otherwise, it might not be wise to date him.
You don't have to always ask him out, either....if he is a family friend, then just ask your folks to invite him to dinner one night or something...belive me I appreciated taking guys with us to dinner just so my daughter could be with them. It was so much fun seeing these boys trying to be polite to my daughter, lol.
2007-01-08 18:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if he wants to hang out, just you and him. see how he reacts to that first. if it is positive try to be more specific next time. like do u wanna go to a movie?
2007-01-08 18:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by babygurl 26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him and tell him your fellings.And he will be very happy to have a modest girl like you
2007-01-08 18:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by masih.nadeem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say wanna go out with me, if they say yes good if its a no say I was just messing with you
2007-01-08 18:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by phenom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋