How to overcome love feelings?

Question

I love a girl, and I am sure that she did not love me. But I cant forget this girl. Because I love her so much.

Its been three years since I met her, but I remember each and everything about her. Now its effecting my work. I cant work effectively. I cant concentrate.

What do I do to now? Can somebody help me. Please!!

Answer 1

Ask her out on a date. n

Answer 2

1.Allow yourself a personalized amount of time to think about the things that happened between you and the ex. Look at both the good sides and the bad sides of the relationship. Note: It's almost always easier to remember the good times.
2.Cry if you need to - it's all right to feel the pain.
3.Feeling angry? That's good! Anger can bring out those bad memories and if they are there.Why waste them?
4.Gain self confidence. If this person has ever affected you negatively, look at why they would have wanted to. Is it possible that they are or were having problems with themselves? Consider the possibility that this person is 'damaged goods.'
5.Know that you can not change a person.
6.Or: Know that you can not change a person who does not want to change. Yes, I think it is possible to help people want to change but that needs to be decided on a case-to-case basis.
7.Realize that you can not change the hands of time. The past is infecting the past and however badly you wish you could go back - you are not able to. Don't waste your future thinking about what could have been, think about what can and will be.
8.Understand that changes take time and hard work. They are a challenge. A habit takes 11 days to form. How long will it take to break?
9.Look to your friends for support, if they are friends at all they will understand and let you cry on their shoulders and wail in their ears.
10.Try to go out and have fun with those friends, sitting at home is good on rainy days but remember to take advantage of the times you have right now! Go climb some rocks or sing karaoke or rollerblade. Working out is cool too. Exercise the blues away.
11.Do your best not to just 'jump' into another relationship. Give yourself time to know that you are ready to give it a try again.
12.Make sure you have learned a lesson from the past relationship.. but do not hold it against a new one. (Note: Check that you aren't dating the same 'type' of person.)

Tips
•If you happen to see this person around town and don't think you can stand up to them...walking away is perfectly fine and probably more effective than speaking with them.
•Let someone know if you are in pain.

Warnings
•If you are having an extremely difficult time on something of this matter, please contact the proper support.
•Avoid revengeful acts (i.e. slashing tires or sleeping with a friend of his or hers).
•Think about this: if your ex was a manipulative/controlling/mean/conceited person, his/her friends may be the same anyway).
•It is not okay to harass your ex family/friends. It is not okay to call your ex or drive by her home.

Things You'll Need
•Patience for yourself.
•A clear mind.
•Maybe a journal.

Answer 3

I am so in the same situtation... Its not going to be easy with u having loved her and all. But u really have overcame it because u realized she didnt love u back!! And that can be hard to admit. Any filling your time with activities can be a good source of getting over people. But let me tell u you one of my mottos "Love never goes away, you just find another person to come along a cover up those old feelings with new ones." Now that may sound bad but when u reflect on it, it makes perfect sense... It gives u hope that with every heartache will come new joy until u find the one that loves u back.
I really hope that helps!

Answer 4

Tell her. Just do it. Don't be scared. You may feel like dieing if you are rejected, but you won't feel any worse than you do now not knowing. Good luck, i hope you feel better soon. :( I found that I couldn't get over a guy until I knew it was over. Things which end badly, i find work out best for yourself, coz yu get so annoyed at them that you are over them. Go on, you ave nothing to lose.

Answer 5

Millions of people carry happy memories of a love gone by---Sometimes anything can jog the memory---a place, a food, a smell----it's normal. But if you are obsessed--you better get a hobby or something to distract you--hey I know---how about another girl?

Answer 6

have you went out with other girls to try and forget her, that should help and if not maybe tell her again how you feel and see what you could do to maybe make her like you some

Answer 7

ok this works but its hard and you have to stick to it

do not talk to her, cut off all contact

and then wait

time will heal

then you will be happy and free

then you will meet someone who will love you as much as you love them

i know its hard so good luck

and have faith.... you will get over her , i know it.

Answer 8

call her and tell her how you feel. she may reject you or accept you, but it really wouldnt matter now. just say the things you missed to tell her. dont let your emotions control you. bring it out so you'd be ready to control them. goodluck n Godspeed!

Answer 9

find a new love.

Answer 10

keep yourself busy