Well my boyfriend of 5 years and i, has been talking about getting married for the longest time, we finally asked for blessings from both of our parents and got a thumbs up from all of them. Now we are starting to plan little by little.
Now my questions is, is it nescessary for my boyfriend to suprise me and still get on his knees and propose to me and buy me an engagement ring? I've always wanted to know how it feels like to have someone do that for me and actually have and engagement ring to show off to my girlfriends....but i feel like my bf doesn't have any plans or feel that we can skip all that and go straight to the planning....i feel kind of curshed that i 'm not going to expereince that....should i stop wining or should i say something?
2007-01-08 17:58:03 · 24 answers · asked by jennifromtheblock 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A proposal is nice and you deserve every good fortune, but the real treasure is when you walk down that aisle and look into that mans eyes and he says I do. Congrats!
2007-01-09 12:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by EDNA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say it like it is; just like you have written it here. If you're marrying this person, you should have be able to communicate your dreams and desires to him - there's nothing shameful in that. He might need some help in picking out a ring for you - show him some styles you like (in the store, or online), and have him run with it. My husband and I didn't have an "engagement", i.e., we simply decided to get married. But there was this blue topaz ring I've wanted to a long time, so I just dragged him to the jewelry store and told him, this will be our engagement ring, how 'bout it. We were both really happy, and there was no problem or resentment or unfulfilled dreams; he got some help from me in telling him EXACTLY what I wanted, and I got a pretty ring that I show off as an "engagement" ring. TELL HIM! He probably has no idea you're even harboring these feelings.
2007-01-09 03:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An engagement ring isn't necessary, but if it is something that you want, or more importantly the experience that you want, you should say something. Being married myself, I have learned that you do have to ask for things, and you can't expect the other person to read your mind; that comes with time. Live life without regrets, and if you feel like you would think about not having the experience of an engagement with a ring, then by all means ask. The worst that can happen is a conversation where you discuss alternative options.
2007-01-09 02:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by p1ss2ff2hh2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well if this is how you feel you should say something, at first give him some hints that you want him to propose like watcha movie when the guy proposes to the girl and let him see you watch it or make your mates ask him or something, if he really doesn't get the hints then the direct approach is next.
Just walk up to him and tell him, im sure he'll understand hes been with you for ages now, i doubt he's going to throw all that away, besides how bad could it be? even if the rings not expensive its the thought that counts even if you gave him a hint.
good luck
2007-01-09 02:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by ohsocindii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need a ring technically, if price is an issue for him he can do a simple band for now and upgrade later, or you can even do an engagement necklace or bracelet.. but if you know what you want for an engagement, talk to him about it.. communication is the key and if you tell him that it means a lot to you then i'm sure he'll understand and maybe take the initiative in getting you a ring.
also, you don't need to wait for the ring to start planning, i'm sure by 5 years together you've probably already looked at some wedding stuff, but the earlier you start planning the better ;)
2007-01-09 02:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieDoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it necessary - no, but every girl should experience it. I have been married 12 years and I still show my ring off! In some quiet and unknown way I think my husband likes the fact that I brag to people and tell them I am married. When we first got married I had a ring with his birthstone in it because we could not afford anything fancy and I was very proud to show it off. For our 10th anniversary he surprised me with one heck of a rock, so I guess I got to show off twice. It is not necessarily the size of the ring but the sentiment behind it. Love him no matter what happens - you never know what the future will bring. Good luck!
2007-01-09 02:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experienced the same situation. My boyfriend (at the moment) & I got blessings from our parents to get married. Then we went ring shopping together. I was feeling the same way you are feeling about the proposal part. even though we had already picked out the ring together, I didn't wanted to give it to me right away..it wouldn't be as special..so I told him that I wanted him to give to me on another day to make it special..he surprising went down on bended at a restaurant in front of my family to propose one day..even though I knew this was gonna happen some day..I have to admit it was one of the most emotional moment in my life so far..
so I think you should tell him what you want.. I'm sure if he loves you, he would try to make your dreams come true. tell him its a "once in a lifetime" moment..
2007-01-09 02:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bride2Be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its what every girl wants, (most anyway), don't be ashamed of what you know will make you happy. If he doesn't its not something to call off the wedding for but acknowledge your feelings, they are valid. If he told you there was to be no showy wedding only an elopement since you've been together so long would you just go along and keep it to yourself?
BTW: you can always propose to him, then you'll know there'll be a surprise! Monica did it on Friends. It's not just up to him to propose, its 2007!
2007-01-09 02:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whine, whine whine and whine some more to him! He might as well get used to it right now if he's going to marry you!!!!!
You deserve a ring and a traditional proposal if that is what you want.
For such a little request why is he not willing to do it? Its not really THAT hard to buy a ring, get down on one knee and propose. Or to even plan a little surprise for you with dinner or something.
He should WANT to do it for you if he knows it will make you happy. Such a small request!!!! What's his deal anyways?
2007-01-09 02:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Elysia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey speak up he want no unless you tell him. men dont pick up on these things . and i agree yes you should get to experience the whole ritual of proposal and engagement ring, you'll always feel riped off if you dont . here's a thought email him this page lol hint hint . or simply email him engagement rings you like or maybe pin some catalogs to the fridge with rings cycled you like, he will get the hint lol, men need a gently push in the right direction some times
good luck Hope its a rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 03:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by trcyhanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, My now husband & I had spoke of about engagment and he asked my mother for her permission, so I knew. He was so cute he went & chose the ring on his own I was nervious but I did not want to pressure him into a high price ring I wanted what he wanted for me, he choose the most beautiful ring . I was at his apartment & asked him to run to the store & get apple juice, I had my back to him as he dropped to his knee & pulled out the ring & said sure if you agree to marry me 1st. It was a bit chessy but unexpected & something I will never forget & so special.
2007-01-09 02:11:32 · answer #11 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋