I have come to know one of my co-workers alot better. I didnt realize I had a crush on her, until WHENEVER I knew we working together, I couldnt wait to see, and talk with her. She is the most Adorable, sweetest girl I know. Her smile can light up a room, not to mention one's day. I sometimes catch her out of the corner of my eye watching me. When I catch her she looks away like as if she wasnt doing anything. We could talk ALL day. Obviously my feelings have grew tremendously for her. Except, I am too nervous to ask her out b/c she tells me she has a crush on some kid, and she has had a crush on him for quite some-time. I know him, but I dont know him. He wont go out with her for some lame reason, and she still keeps trying to go for him. Should I just play the friend factor for now, maybe try to move in if things dont work out? Only nervous thing about it is, I may miss out if I dont try, and I could make it awkward at work if I do. I need some outsider point of veiws..
2007-01-08 17:29:44 · 6 answers · asked by tim c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why not try to be more of a friend to her first, no pressure on her u know. just ask her to lunch at work and try to be relaxed about it. she may have her mind on that other guy, but u sound really nice. you may find yourself spending time with her at lunch every day, and then maybe you could ask her to go to a movie or something? she will be able to get to know you and become comfortable with you. then who knows? good luck.
2007-01-08 17:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by honeyc73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, except I am so shy around the guy he probably thinks I hate him. He seemed to be interested at one point, but I believe he likes someone else now. Anyway, I am still going to finally tell him, as should you. At least you have made friends with this girl. I don't really believe it will make things that uncomfortable, unless you feel you really can't work with her if she is not interested. I say go for it, you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain. Take it from someone who understands, if you don't go for it, you will regret it. Even if she says no you could still remain friends, and who knows what might happen in the future. Good luck, I hope we both get our crushes.
(P.S. Co-worker relationships don't always work out, but if you keep it light and fun, everything should be okay in the end.)
2007-01-08 20:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's telling you that she has a crush on a man, I don't think that you should believe her because she might have told you so make you a bit jealous and ask her out. Many girls do that and it happened to me several times as well.
But the only problem you have mate is because she's your CO-WORKER. As she's so, I don't think that building a relationship with her is a great idea b/c co-workers in a relationship never work out and the reason is, when the relationship goes well, both of you will give your utmost at work but when there are problems in a relationship (which every relationship is subject to) you will be feeling bad at work, even try to stop going to work.
So take my advise mate don't try to start a relationship with her unless you change you place of work.
2007-01-08 18:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female I'll tell you if it was me I wouldn't like you trying to come between the guy I have a crush on.The best thing you can do is be her friend and nothing else.She needs to play this out on her own.
2007-01-08 17:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your nerves. Get in there and ask her for a date before somebody else does.
Go on you know you want to.
Good luck.
2007-01-08 17:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time your talking to her ask her if she would consider going out with someone else instead for the guy shes waiting for
2007-01-08 18:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by lizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋