we have been going out for a few times, and in all those times he paid for everything, food drink and whatnots. i'm not sure if i'm supposed to pay him back or treat/shout him next time we go out or go dutch.......? what's the norm?
2007-01-08 17:02:00 · 7 answers · asked by jos 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm definitely not going out with him for his money!
2007-01-08 17:18:19 · update #1
I have been dating the same guy for almost a year and he always pays for everything. I think he likes to pay, and that it makes him feel good and I respect him a lot for that. He also pays for things like clothes and trips. If I ask for help, he helps. I do not date him for that reason. He is a really hot, funny, considerate guy and I am in love with him. I always say thank you, and tell him how much I appreciate him. I say let him pay. If he does not pay, maybe you should ask him how he feels about you paying once in a while. Just do not let him get in the habit relying on you to pay. If he is a real man, he wont let you pay for a lot of things anyway.
2007-01-08 19:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by dancingdilemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's chivalry. Don't let it die. Guys are supposed to pay and we don't (shouldn't) expect anything in return. You do NOT ever have to pay, ESPECIALLY on a DATE!!! We get paid more for a reason.
I'll tell you what really worked on me when I went on this one date with a new girlfriend. Totally freaking awesome and it really hit me dead square in the heart. I took her out to dinner then we went to a play. I paid for everything of course. I even rented a mustang because my car was in the shop. After the play we were walking around downtown and she said in the sweetest voice, "thank you so much for tonight. Will you let me buy you coffee?" Oh man!!! That sentence did everything just right. She thanked me, she showed me respect and honor for my desire to be a good provider and she also asked for respect in return in a gentle way and she let me know how a relationship with her would truly be equal. I might pay more often, and she would let me because it's important for me to feel needed, but she would appreciate everything that I would do for her. That was one of the most romantic things a woman has ever done for me. And all she did was buy me a $5 cup of coffee.
2007-01-08 17:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually prefer that the girl I am going out with make an effort to pay once in a while. I don't want to be with a girl who is with me because of my money. And if I girl doesn't try to pay even once I stop going out with her.
2007-01-08 17:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by xxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good to go half or even take him out and pay every now and then to. Because some people focus too much on people being with them for their money and if you do it that way it kinda shows that you care for the person for them and not what they got.
2007-01-08 17:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to talk about it with him if it bothers you. normally the guy does pay but in more recent times girls are starting to pay too.
my gf and i had the same problem, and she talked to me about it, and we came up with things we will pay, such as i will pay for dining (like eating out, drinks, etc.) she pays for recreational stuff (like movies)
2007-01-08 17:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kev C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual but if it bothers you then ask him on a date and tell him you're paying.
2007-01-08 17:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by grrlstarr79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be casual and say "I'll pay this time, a treat for you."
2007-01-08 17:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋