2 months ago, i met this girl who rocked my world. she is everything you could ever want and more. she liked me too, somewhat but was scared bc i was moving away (as i just graduated college and am going back home 500 miles away). so now she is dating someone else. and i am also trying to date other people, trouble is i can't forget her. i keep thinking about how my life would be with her, there is like something missing. i just graduated and always thought i'd be glad for that but now all i want is to go back in time. i can't tell her how i feel bc that would be unfair to her. she wrote to me recently that she has gotten over her guilt (i think for liking me while dating someone else but it could be for hurting mean) and that she is open to whatever i want to write but i don't know what this means. i am the most clean-cut, well-behaved kid but all i want to do is disappear into drugs or something, just to forget. what should i do??
2007-01-08 17:00:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To go into drugs alcohol just is not the answer. Your not hurting anybody but yourself even worse. Besides it's only tempary for the time being. Get some kind of counseling, get some meds. talk to friends. Find out somehow what she does mean, only be ready for the worst to hear. Take care of you. "YOU ARE NUMBER ONE, AND SOUND LIKE A VERY SMART YOUNG MAN, SOMBODY DESERVES THAT, AND YOU TO SHARE". You take care. God Bless you.
2007-01-08 17:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether or not you want to write her back... Perhaps it's worth a shot. Be honest, express some of what you're feeling, but keep it short, try not to sound pathetic, and leave enough for her imagination (don't spill out all of your feelings in one long rambling letter). Do you think it is possible that you two might get together in the future? If so, perhaps this letter could open the door to communication. But if you don't feel you would ever see her again - I don't see the point in hanging on to the past; let go, let it heal, and move on. You need to get over it... If it's only been two months - you're still not over the pain; it's understandable, but it's not going to last forever. Good luck.
2007-01-08 17:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her how you feel and if she is not interested in something with you exclusively then just end it there for good. Some girls will be happy to string you along forever with some kind of dating other people but we can "be friends" when I'm in town or some bs like that, just end it if she doesn't want to be with you and you alone.
Honestly I would say that it does not sound good for your prospects. The chances are very good that she is already aware of how much you like her already, if she was really that afraid of losing you she would not be dating other people and telling you about it. So what if she "feels guilty" about it, that sounds like a line to me. Obviously she doesn't feel that guilty, because she told you about it, and now is going to go on and date someone else too.
2007-01-08 17:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the only thing I can think of is to move back with her. If you like her so much, email her a long email saying that you want a second chance. Second, tell her that you are willing to move back if you were given another chance. If she say yes, then you have to make the sacrifice. Once you found someone you like that much, then I would not let her go. but thats just me.....YOu can and still be able to find another one, but it wont be easy. It depends on waht you want and how much ur willing to sacrifice.
2007-01-08 17:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shoudl tell her the truth about how you feel.If you never tell her you may have lost something you may never have again. If she feels the same way she will have a long distant relationship with you until you and her can work it out to get closer to one another. Drugs will not help you deal with reality but being honest with her will help you know if you should wait for her or move on if she is not willing to wait for you.
2007-01-08 17:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, self-destructive behavior like getting involved in drugs is not going to help the situation and will not make this girl want to be with you. Tell her how you feel. Whe opened the door to communication when she told you to say what you wanted. Long distance relationships can work. If it is meant to be, you can always work it out between yourselves- if it is what you both want. But, you won't know unless you put it out there.
2007-01-08 17:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just sound like you need to get your self together, i know that
it might seem that life is crazy right now, but you will find that
love that will turn you around she is out there. and you will
find her, but you need to let go of the past and move forward
with everything that going on right now in your life, just take
time to time to slow down and see the world and what it
has to offer for you. time will heal your heart and you will
llove again. good luck to you. god bless.
2007-01-08 17:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, reading this made me sad!! && i thought my problems were bad ... well, if i were you, i would do one single thing ... TELL HER!! if you think it's unfair to her ... think of how unfair it is for YOU. you need to let people know these things, trust me, i know from past experiences that that is definately the right thing to do. you never know, everything could turn out the way you planned it to!! .... && if not ... just stay strong. obviously, it wasn't ment to be, && you need to just carry on. that means theres more girls out there for you who may take away the feelings you had for her, && have even stronger ones for the next girl to enter your life.
2007-01-08 17:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by nathalie_dawson03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, I've been through worse. Time is a healer, just relax, its painful now but this too shall pass.
Try to keep your mind on other things, like a new hobby. Try carpentry, build something, it's not worth beating yourself up over this.
2007-01-08 17:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the heck. tell her you like her and have a long distance relationship if you like each other that much. if she is truly the one for you she will wait. if she is not into the idea then go your separate ways. just remember that as much as you like her there is always someone else you will meet who you will like even more. believe me.
2007-01-08 17:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋