I want to wait a few years, but I truly love kids, and have always wanted a decent sized family. My husband was unsure of kids until I became pregnant, and he was so excited. Then, our son was born- colicky, and super fussy too when he's teething. I have way more patience with our son... where as my husband doesn't deal with all the crying so much. He says never again period. I love my husband, and he truly loves me as well. I just don't know how to get past coping with never having another. And again, I love my husband, I don't want a divorce or to find someone new who feels the same as I do. I'm just stuck right now not knowing how to get through this. I love our son with all my heart, and he's so good around other babies (he's only 15 months), I know he'd be great as a brother. And for myself, I had a hard past with my mom being abusive... so I feel I have all this love in the world to give, and now I can't since my husband doesn't want anymore. Please help.
2007-01-08 17:00:16 · 5 answers · asked by lovingmommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Once he gets a bit older he will be much more easier to look after, and I'm sure your husband will be wanting another. If not, talk to him. explain how important another one is to you. It should be a 50/50 decision - not just his. I wanted another one after our 3rd child, but due to a very serious complication and birth my husband decided there was no way I was having any more. He went and had a vascectomy (without my wanting him to.) I decided to be content with the 3 precious ones I had, because obviously no more were coming. I went and got a puppy (a gorgeous cavalier king charles) and he has completed our precious family!!! Good luck with your quest, I hope you do get your next longed for child.
2007-01-08 23:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tough thing to have to deal with. My best friend is going through this right now. She wants another, their son will be 2 in February. Her hubby doesn't want anymore, he has a daughter from a previous relationship and feels like 2 is enough. She is torn between the man that she loves, and having another baby. I cant say what is the right answer, but I hope you can figure out a compromise for you and your husband. I just thought I would let you know your not the only one going through this. Good Luck
2007-01-08 17:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by krickee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband felt the same way after our son was born. I don't think he realized how hard it is to raising a child. He's biggest problem was the change I made to becoming a mother and being sick the whole pregnancy, he couldn't deal with it. But with enough nagging I convinced him to have one more.
My husband had a vasectomy 6 months ago. It was a mutual decision. Maybe you just need to let him know how important it is to you to have one more. He loves youand want to make you happy too!
2007-01-09 00:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...it particularly is plenty to think of roughly. 40-one isn't too old on your spouse, when you consider that she has already had one baby. surgeon's say it rather is not terrific to have your first baby that previous due, yet that deliver has sailed. I could desire to enable you comprehend that siblings that some distance aside in age should not be a great form of help for the different. I even have 2 boys, age sixteen and 26. they have slightly elementary floor, yet they are so very diverse, that they actually do no longer grant a great form of companionship for one yet another and not in any respect have. It feels like your spouse is "on the fence". She does not particularly need yet another infant at this point, yet yet she replaced into chuffed while it accidently handed off. i might say your terrific highway may be to coach her, by using words AND strikes, how plenty you like and help her. Do extra chores around the homestead to unlock time for her to have some "down time" for herself and merely enable her comprehend which you savour all she does. one ingredient to contemplate...in case you have a baby now, is which you would be on your 60's while that baby is a youngster. Are you useful that's what you like? And, at your progressed age, that baby is in all hazard to be fairly youthful once you and your spouse are the two long previous. it particularly is going to be stressful too. have you ever considered adoption? there are a number of youthful toddlers who ought to learn from a loving homestead and are many times ignored because of the fact they are no longer toddlers. no person could make up your ideas for you, and purely you and your spouse can come to that think approximately your lives, yet those are purely some issues to think of roughly and think of roughly. i'm 40 4 myself. i'm no longer able to fathom attempting to have yet another infant at this age.
2016-11-27 22:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue talking with him. He may just need time. Make sure he understands that colic is not something that happens to every baby. Also make sure he knows that every child is different. I know how you feel. I'm undecided about another at the moment but my husband is all for it. I guess we'll wait and see what happens. I'm sure in time as he sees your son's behavior improve he'll realize he wants another. Best of Luck!
2007-01-08 17:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋